mayaxox Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 I broke up with him after about 3 and a half months into the relationship. The first month that I spent with him was absolutely wonderful. He was the most caring, funniest guy I had ever talked to and I felt like I could be who I was in front of him and share anything with him. He was also amazing with my family and his family gave me so much love that i was overwhlemed. However, I did notice a few times that things used to tick him off a lot to which I would apologize for to make sure he didnt get upset. I am also very insecure and have lack of confidence s so having him made me feel like I was worth something. Then, one day we got into a huge argument and it ticked him off so much that he did not speak to me properly for about 3 days while I was consistently texting him and calling. After that it was all downhill. He would say derogatory comments to me, make fun of my family, and at times when he would get ticked off he would say things like I lost all the love I had for you. A few times he would scream loudly at me. All of these times I shrugged it all off and made myself responsible for his behaviour in my mind. Even when I brought up things that upset me he would retaliate by saying you have changed and so I would not push the subject. One night he went out with some girls and I was ok with that until he texted me saying it sucks how all the girls I hang out with enjoy my presence and you dont even get me. That text made me cry for nights and when I brought it up to him he said to read it again and work on it. I got really attaced to his family and made me consistently call them while he used to talk bad about mine to me. He would tell me to start dressing better, shop from classier places, send me makeup tutorials, convinced me to start going to the gym. All of this just made me feel so worthless because I thought i wasnt good enough so he wanted me to work on myself. He also mentioned a history of doing drugs and said he wanted me to introduce me to that world soon too. The last straw was that one night we were talking and he told me that I should always look good for him or else he would look at other girls. He also told me he still had his tinder account and didnt want to close it because he wanted to know if he still got it. I got furious that all this man is concerned about is his looks and I called it off right then and there.The night of the breakup he apologized a lot, cried and even said he will change. I was so mad that I didnt care and left. I never heard from him until a month later. The months that I was away for him were so hard because all I could think of was how sometimes he was so amazing even during our rough patches and made me feel special and how we clicked so well and i might never have that again. I was slowly fading out the bad memories of him in regret. Then i recived a text from him saying it is so hard for him to be without me and he thinks about me every minute and he misses me a lot. He went all to say that i am his only love and he gave it all to me but i had no clue. He also said hes trying to work on his anger. I dont know what to do now because his texts make me miss him so much but also make me mad because he did not give his all it was all me. I dont know what the purpose of him texting is. He does not say anywhere that he wants me back he is justmissing me and playing with my heart. I dont know if he is just bored and wants me to talk to. But it is making me feel so heartbroken and I am regretting my decision to break up really badly right now.
ravfour4 Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 You did the right thing by breaking up with him, no doubt about it. He was treating you terribly and degrading you just to make himself feel better. He deserved to be dumbed 100%. Now he's realizing how great you really were, probably because he hasn't been able to find anyone else better or anyone else at all and sending you these I miss you breadcrumbs. Don't regret what you did and unless he's made large changes to himself (doubtful) he's not someone you want to be with. Meeting up with him again would very likely hurt more than it would help. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 The best thing you ever did was get him out of your life. He sounds horrible. 1
Mrin Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 Pathetic excuse for a man if you ask me. Don't give him another thought. Real men make their women feel exalted. Elevated. Appreciated. Not diminished. 1
54JA Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 You certainly did the right thing by dumping this guy. He does not deserve you. For my selfish satisfaction, I really hope he never gets a second chance with you. Stay strong!! 1
Arieswoman Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 mayaxox, From what you say this guy was a nasty abusive POS. He would say derogatory comments to me, make fun of my family, and at times when he would get ticked off he would say things like I lost all the love I had for you. A few times he would scream loudly at me ^^^^ this is verbal abuse. All of these times I shrugged it all off and made myself responsible for his behaviour in my mind. Don't ever make yourself responsible for someone else's bad behaviour. Now put as much distance as you can from this person. Good luck and stay strong x
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