manders_01 Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 I am a public transportation user and see many people on a regular basis. One guy took an interest in me, got the courage up to say hi (his words, not mine), and we exchanged numbers. That was Monday morning. Monday evening we texted for a bit. Yesterday morning I received a text. Last night I received a text (after I was all ready asleep). This morning I received a text; one that seemed to indicate that he was annoyed that he did not receive a response to last night's text. I'd say I'd hate to be "that" girl but I know I totally am right now. I don't know this guy, I've been on dating sabbatical for several years, and I can't say for certain that I'm even open to ending said sabbatical. I am admittedly one of those that likes to have some sort of contact with their SO on a daily basis (in person, text, phone, email). But this guy is not my SO and I'm a little annoyed with what for me, right now, is excessive; I feel it's a little much from someone I don't know. While I don't want to be "that" girl, I also would really like him to pump the brakes just a bit. Thoughts on a kind way to say so?
angel.eyes Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 Is there a date somewhere in this...or just random texting? I tend to be very practical sometimes. If there's no date on the horizon, and the person is not going to be a friend, then there's no point to texting.
Author manders_01 Posted July 1, 2015 Author Posted July 1, 2015 Is there a date somewhere in this...or just random texting? I tend to be very practical sometimes. If there's no date on the horizon, and the person is not going to be a friend, then there's no point to texting. He asked me out several times, two times for before work dates (which were definitely not happening, I don't like anyone enough to get up at 4 in morning for date! LOL) and then for this weekend. I agreed to meeting up this weekend though I can't say that I'm completely on board to do so. However, I feel that I should at least be open to giving it a chance, maybe I'll adore him.
losangelena Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 What kind of stuff is he texting you? It would be a red flag for me if a guy who I hadn't even gone out with yet was complaining that I hadn't texted back "quickly" enough. If it's excessive now, it might only get worse. You sound ambivalent about this at best. :-/ You've already agreed to meet him, so go, but if I were you I wouldn't feel obligated to end a dating sabbatical for a guy who I'm not totally into.
xUnknown Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 He asked me out several times, two times for before work dates (which were definitely not happening, I don't like anyone enough to get up at 4 in morning for date! LOL) and then for this weekend. I agreed to meeting up this weekend though I can't say that I'm completely on board to do so. However, I feel that I should at least be open to giving it a chance, maybe I'll adore him. why not say something like...the truth. "Sorry I didn't respond, I was sleeping at that time. I have a pretty busy day at work which requires me to get up at 4am. I look forward to this weekend. What place did you have in mind?" <insert a few texts exchanged about where to go> "Sorry im not much of a big texter. But i'll talk to you friday to confirm our plans. Have a good day and see you in a few days" 3
Author manders_01 Posted July 1, 2015 Author Posted July 1, 2015 What kind of stuff is he texting you? It would be a red flag for me if a guy who I hadn't even gone out with yet was complaining that I hadn't texted back "quickly" enough. If it's excessive now, it might only get worse. You sound ambivalent about this at best. :-/ You've already agreed to meet him, so go, but if I were you I wouldn't feel obligated to end a dating sabbatical for a guy who I'm not totally into. It's not anything bad, just getting to know you stuff, but I was certainly turned off by the insinuation this morning.
Author manders_01 Posted July 1, 2015 Author Posted July 1, 2015 why not say something like...the truth. "Sorry I didn't respond, I was sleeping at that time. I have a pretty busy day at work which requires me to get up at 4am. I look forward to this weekend. What place did you have in mind?" <insert a few texts exchanged about where to go> "Sorry im not much of a big texter. But i'll talk to you friday to confirm our plans. Have a good day and see you in a few days" Thank you, this gives me a good starting point!
ExpatInItaly Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 It's not anything bad, just getting to know you stuff, but I was certainly turned off by the insinuation this morning. What did he write, exactly?
fitnessfan365 Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 Your instincts aren't wrong. An instant red flag is when someone lacks patience and has clingy tendencies by complaining about you not texting back fast enough. Then combine that with you already getting a "good morning" text as well. I mean this is a guy that you haven't had a first date with yet. My advice..run! 2
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