Peiweigirl Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 There is a guy in my friends group I've been interested in a while. I've known him for two months and all our friends keep telling me we look cute together. A few weeks ago, I was lucky to hangout with him and another friend to see Jurassic World. The next weekend, I asked him if he wanted to try out this new pizzeria. He said yes! So we hung out that night. He paid for my meal. Opened the car door for me. And his dad even called to say hello to me with the whole family on speaker phone. This wasn't even a date...we were just hanging casually as friends. After the date, he gave me a big hug and said to keep in contact while I was gone. It's been about a week since I left for vacation. We were texting the first few days but now I get random snapchats once in a while and he likes my Instagram pics. But since yesterday, we haven't had contact. Now that I'll be home soon, I want to hang out. I feel like he likes me but is too afraid to show it? Or is he suddenly not interested? He seems shy to show his feelings but then I could be wrong.
Gary S Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 Well, make sure he knows when you are getting home so he has the opportunity to ask you out pronto.
d0nnivain Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 He's backing off so as not to bug you while you are on vacation. Let him know when you get home. If he doesn't set something up, you call him. If he doesn't respond to that there was never anything there.
davidromero43 Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 Increase the communication with him. We guys try to figure out girls intentions all the time, but rarely get it right.
Redhead14 Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 There is a guy in my friends group I've been interested in a while. I've known him for two months and all our friends keep telling me we look cute together. A few weeks ago, I was lucky to hangout with him and another friend to see Jurassic World. The next weekend, I asked him if he wanted to try out this new pizzeria. He said yes! So we hung out that night. He paid for my meal. Opened the car door for me. And his dad even called to say hello to me with the whole family on speaker phone. This wasn't even a date...we were just hanging casually as friends. After the date, he gave me a big hug and said to keep in contact while I was gone. It's been about a week since I left for vacation. We were texting the first few days but now I get random snapchats once in a while and he likes my Instagram pics. But since yesterday, we haven't had contact. Now that I'll be home soon, I want to hang out. I feel like he likes me but is too afraid to show it? Or is he suddenly not interested? He seems shy to show his feelings but then I could be wrong. Leave the ball in his court. Don't reach out to him. Let him come to you. He knows when you'll be home. Sit it out. Don't initiate. If he's invested enough, he'll come to you. You dont' know what's going on with him right now. You initiated, he knows your interested, let him demonstrate his level of interest in you. When you've initiated a date with a man, you give the reins back to him so to speak. You don't compound the initiating because then you don't get a sense of whether he would have initiated anything with you and you wonder sometimes. If you're doing all the work, it's not balanced. He wasn't too shy to hang out with you and give you a hug and tell you to keep in touch . . . he's not being shy now.
Author Peiweigirl Posted July 1, 2015 Author Posted July 1, 2015 I mean, I asked him out first...as friends. I haven't flirted much but wouldn't you think asking a guy to hang with a girl might show they have interest in each other? Or are guys that blind to see those obvious hints?
d0nnivain Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 While the girl is around absolutely he should pick up on the hints. However, you asking him out as friends sent the wrong message. He may not realize you like him & are waiting for him to ask you out. However, while you are on vacation & outside of your normal routine I think he gets a pass. See what happens when you get home. 1
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