ZA Dater Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 Perhaps a rather cryptic title, would be interesting to get some opinions on this. Do the people you have dated/met up with in the past change your likes and dislikes and do they influence the type of person you ultimately look for? Basically what I am saying is do you feel the bar gets raised and its difficult to go back to someone who perhaps was not as "wow" as the last person. I cant speak of experience here in the dating sense but I can say of the two dozen people I met from OLD it definitely was a case of the bar being raised and lowered to varying degrees. When I got used to someone really vivacious and smart its very difficult to go back to someone who doesn't speak so beautifully and isn't so smart. Or am I completely off base here.
carhill Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 IME, every woman I dated, had a relationship with, or married was unique and different and I didn't see any bars to raise or lower or maintain. They were individuals with unique strengths, weaknesses, viewpoints, histories and everything else which makes us human. I celebrated who they were and none ever created a spreadsheet of 'stuff' by which I analyzed other women. If anything, the experiences helped identify aspects of compatibility in myself so I could more easily see 'mesh' with other potentials, again bringing their unique mix of humanity to the interactions. The main pattern was no pattern. Hope that helps!
LadyDeadpool Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 The only "bar" or standards I have that I compare from person to person is the usually moral standards etc. I don't bother comparing personalities and the like because to me, someone completely different from me or the person before is just a chance to experience something new.
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