allyk12 Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 Hi there, I have an awkward situation and I might as well not lie as I do need help. Firstly, my girlfriend(ex) is Chinese. She has a son and was in the process of Divorce. She did not love who she was married to and it was forced upon her by her family. She was with me here in Glasgow for one year as she said she needed to escape her life. I want to add that the love was genuine, I met her dad, her son, I went to China with her (and my mum, her dad and her son) so it was all legitimate. After one year together, she went home last August. For about 6 months we would text frequently, but it deteriorated as she is a teacher. She is Chinese and I know from fact that her life is a bit hectic. We met just in March and things were perfect... but after a month she started not to message me. After a few weeks, she said she could not contemplate leaving her son, and that she felt she had no option but to say sorry.... Initially I agreed with her but she sent a message "I don't want to sentence our fate yet. I need time to think." After about 2 weeks I got a few 3 word responses, never together, but I knew something was not right. I then waited 2 weeks and messaged her again, stupidly I sent about 7 separate (small) messages explaining how I felt. The response I got was:- "ally, please move on and find a better girl. I'm sorry" I lost my composure and said some things I simply did not mean. I apologised for it albeit I made her aware that I was upset and hurt with what she said and the way she done it. I'm now going to NC for a while and let things cool off... but I feel embarrassed, stupid and fearful that I may have done some damage. I really want to apologise again but I don't want to sound needy, desperate or make it worse. She has not deleted me, she has not blocked me and I was the only person she spoke with on Whatsapp. She only ever logged in (and currently logs in) when I message her. I need help and I need advice
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