Seeker12 Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 Hey guys, just need a bit of help. 6 months of NC out of a 7 yr RS, thought i was going fine, but past few days iv had a relapse in my feelings and thoughts, which has led me to re-adding my ex and checking whatsapp. Some may see it as a small thing but i dont, i have now deleted her back off my contacts/whatsapp, when NC is NC well i see it as complete NC, avoiding the ex etc. Now any thoughts or run through of convos i have in my head i have resorted to writing down on my phone, in due course i will delete these notes. I, honestly, seriously, want to move on, but sometimes, like now, feel crippled. I have met etc. with other girls and do find others attractive, so that was/is not a problem anymore, so i just dont know why my ex (first love if it matters) still bugs me and i have thoughts of her, recently its everything from what shes doing to her new bf...
aloneinaz Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 You know the answer. Stay hardcore NC. What she's doing is none of your business as what you're doing is none of hers. It's normal to think back to your last R/S at 6 months. Everyone does that. I still think of exes from years ago on a rare occasion. Time will put her further in your past if you stop looking at her social media. Out of sight, out of mind. What will really help you move completely on is to find you next love. Once you're madly in love again, you won't put much if any thought into your ex. 1
Author Seeker12 Posted June 30, 2015 Author Posted June 30, 2015 Appreciate the response, i honestly was thinking what the hecks going on, i was going good, feeling good up until this week, then bang just fell back. Definitely NC it is, fortunately i cant even remember how my ex looks which is a plus, i can only thank NC and avoiding her. Yup, i think thats the last piece of my puzzle now, but iv just been picky and with thoughts of my ex really indecisive as i dont want to hurt someone unnecessarily, plus, out of a 6/7 year relationship i did think that i want to experience the single life with the mates for a while, to jump into another relationship i dont think would be good.
Author Seeker12 Posted June 30, 2015 Author Posted June 30, 2015 Appreciate the response, i honestly was thinking what the hecks going on, i was going good, feeling good up until this week, then bang just fell back. Definitely NC it is, fortunately i cant even remember how my ex looks which is a plus, i can only thank NC and avoiding her. Yup, i think thats the last piece of my puzzle now, but iv just been picky and with thoughts of my ex really indecisive as i dont want to hurt someone unnecessarily, plus, out of a 6/7 year relationship i did think that i want to experience the single life with the mates for a while, to jump into another relationship i dont think would be good.
aloneinaz Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 Appreciate the response, i honestly was thinking what the hecks going on, i was going good, feeling good up until this week, then bang just fell back. Again, absolutely normal. The good news is you're so far down the road that this will only be a slight bump in the road. Nothing more, nothing less. Definitely NC it is, fortunately i cant even remember how my ex looks which is a plus, i can only thank NC and avoiding her. Yup, i think thats the last piece of my puzzle now, but iv just been picky and with thoughts of my ex really indecisive as i dont want to hurt someone unnecessarily, plus, out of a 6/7 year relationship i did think that i want to experience the single life with the mates for a while, to jump into another relationship i dont think would be good. I don't think anyone who's dating thinks they need to jump right back into another relationship. I say it all the time. Everyone who's dating is at some stage of getting over their last relationship. Just casual dating for a bit while enjoying the company of the opposite sex is a very good thing. Who knows, you may meet someone who blows you away and could be your last first date.
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