lizzy12 Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 My new bf chats online or texts me everyday, things like 'Did you sleep well?' or 'hows your day going?' or 'have you had dinner?' This is when we dont see each other for the day. What bugs me however, is the fact he will doesnt usually initiates questions beyond the above and it will be mostly me asking him questions to kind of keep the conversation going. We have been dating for one month. Also, if he is around mine, and I make dinner he doesnt do the dishes!! Is this a sign he is selfish?
Redhead14 Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 My new bf chats online or texts me everyday, things like 'Did you sleep well?' or 'hows your day going?' or 'have you had dinner?' This is when we dont see each other for the day. What bugs me however, is the fact he will doesnt usually initiates questions beyond the above and it will be mostly me asking him questions to kind of keep the conversation going. We have been dating for one month. Also, if he is around mine, and I make dinner he doesnt do the dishes!! Is this a sign he is selfish? Nothing you've written above shows that he only talks about himself. He's asking you questions. So I don't really understand your question. And, he is your "boyfriend" after only a month? Are you just calling him your boyfriend or have you two declared that? No matter what, it's only been a month and you're involved with someone who can't carry on a conversation. Does that work for you? If not, move on. As for him not doing the dishes . . . if you two are boyfriend and girlfriend and you want help with the dishes, just hand him a dish towel and give him each dish to dry. All that being said, what is this guy doing that makes you interested in him? What do YOU want for yourself out of your dating experiences. If you want a relationship with someone you should be in the evaluation stage to determine if this guy is bringing enough to your "table" and demonstrating that he is a good candidate for a relationship. You sound to be very young. Get clear in your head about your goals, needs and wants. If a man isn't bringing what you need to it, tell him you've enjoyed his company but you aren't a good match. If this guy only talks about himself and doesn't ask you deeper questions or isn't showing interest in you in order to get to know you, he's probably just there for the sex.
Gaeta Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 My new bf chats online or texts me everyday, things like 'Did you sleep well?' or 'hows your day going?' or 'have you had dinner?' This is when we dont see each other for the day. What bugs me however, is the fact he will doesnt usually initiates questions beyond the above and it will be mostly me asking him questions to kind of keep the conversation going. We have been dating for one month. Also, if he is around mine, and I make dinner he doesnt do the dishes!! Is this a sign he is selfish? You are jumping the gun a little. Text is not a platform to be asking deeper question. It's a mean to keep in touch in a light way. Keep your deep questions for when you're in person. Also a lot of men don't like texting period especially men with big hands, they spend more time correcting their typo than text and it annoys them. As for the dishes it's only how he was raised. It was never taught to him to help with the dishes so now it's normal for him to not help a girlfriend. Ask him to help you. As simple as that. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 As a guy, let me stress that I hate texting. It's obviously a necessary evil in dating. But I have no desire to have long, drawn out conversations via text. I'll keep it light and make/finalize plans. Other than that, my goal is to talk in person as much as possible and to touch base over the phone. BTW - OP I can load a dishwasher like nobody's business.
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