h0000 Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 (edited) Update: I saw him last night and he was very loving and affectionate...in fact he said: "There is something I need to tell you"...so I was like "Yeah?" He said: "I feel like there is really something between us. I can see being with you long term" then he went on to say: "At first I thought it was just infatuation but now I have real feelings. I am also a little bit scared"....He contacted me again today and invited me to spend the weekend with him. I couldn't help it so I made a fake profile. I filled it out and put on a few pictures of an attractive girl (but still real looking). My fake profile messaged him with a flirty message and asked him if he is up for coffee sometime because we live close. He responded: "Thanks for the message but I am seeing someone. Good luck with the dating site." If he is not meeting up why is he still on there? It could be that the girl on your pic isn't his type? You will have to ask him about it Edited July 2, 2015 by h0000
Gaeta Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 Update: I saw him last night and he was very loving and affectionate...in fact he said: "There is something I need to tell you"...so I was like "Yeah?" He said: "I feel like there is really something between us. I can see being with you long term" then he went on to say: "At first I thought it was just infatuation but now I have real feelings. I am also a little bit scared"....He contacted me again today and invited me to spend the weekend with him. I couldn't help it so I made a fake profile. I filled it out and put on a few pictures of an attractive girl (but still real looking). My fake profile messaged him with a flirty message and asked him if he is up for coffee sometime because we live close. He responded: "Thanks for the message but I am seeing someone. Good luck with the dating site." If he is not meeting up why is he still on there? Your fake profile should ask him why he's on there then!
organizedchaos Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 Your fake profile should ask him why he's on there then! ^Exactly! And as someone else said, ask him casually if he ever tried other dating sites. If he says yes, ask take it further and ask about his experience on them. Get him to bring it up if they're not deleted yet and take it from there
BluEyeL Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 No, too much pretending. I think you need to let this issue go, or just find a way to ask him to delete it. Tell him you found the profile, or that a friend found it and just say it would be great if he could delete that one, it would make you feel better.
Author suckered Posted July 5, 2015 Author Posted July 5, 2015 Update #2 Things are not going so well anymore. He hasn't logged in to the dating site in a few days but our relationship has cooled down. We spent time together during the weekend but he seemed distant and bored by our conversation. There was a strong "off" vibe. Today he didn't contact me the entire day (first time it happened since we started dating) and after I sent him a message this evening, he replied briefly for a couple of messages then stopped. We were also both online on FB for an hour and he never messaged me (also the first time this happened). I didn't msg him first because he hasn't replied to my last text. I think I will just pull back and not initiate any contact. Looks like the active OLD profile was an ominous sign after all.
BluEyeL Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 Sorry to hear that. It appears that he did keep that profile up because he was ambivalent about your relationship.
Art_Critic Posted July 5, 2015 Posted July 5, 2015 He sooo knows that you know about his other profile and he also knows or guesses about the fake profile.. no way this leopard changed his spots..hahaha He is so fake... I can't believe you haven't dumped him yet, you do know that if he found your replacement he would've dumped you faster than you can count to 3 1
Author suckered Posted July 6, 2015 Author Posted July 6, 2015 He sooo knows that you know about his other profile and he also knows or guesses about the fake profile.. no way this leopard changed his spots..hahaha He is so fake... I can't believe you haven't dumped him yet, you do know that if he found your replacement he would've dumped you faster than you can count to 3 He has probably cooled down now because he has a promising prospect No point in even dumping him, I will just never contact him again and let him fade.
Popsicle Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 I feel like there is no point in asking him to delete that profile. He will do it and for all I know open another one, or on a different site. I think this is a huge window into his personality that could have taken me a year to find! You are absolutely right. I have a friend who does stuff like this. She just can not stop cheating and even though she has gotten caught countless times by different BF's/Husbands and suffered various consequences, she just can not stop and just hides it better. It's like an addiction. 1
organizedchaos Posted July 6, 2015 Posted July 6, 2015 Update #2 Things are not going so well anymore. He hasn't logged in to the dating site in a few days but our relationship has cooled down. We spent time together during the weekend but he seemed distant and bored by our conversation. There was a strong "off" vibe. Today he didn't contact me the entire day (first time it happened since we started dating) and after I sent him a message this evening, he replied briefly for a couple of messages then stopped. We were also both online on FB for an hour and he never messaged me (also the first time this happened). I didn't msg him first because he hasn't replied to my last text. I think I will just pull back and not initiate any contact. Looks like the active OLD profile was an ominous sign after all. Here's a crazy idea. How about actually talking to him about this instead of relying on social media and text messages???
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