Koans Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 (edited) Theres a girl who works near me. Long story short: I asked her out via FB because I dont have her number. I asked if she wanted to go casually eat, as an excuse to get on a date with her. She always sees me and vice versa. Our location in the working environment forces us to look toward each others direction. So I'm not really friends with this girl or know her well. I just touch bases with her as I briefly chit chat or say hi. Anyways, with my random offer to go eat. She offered a date (a day to meet), so I assume theres a level of an attraction on her end to just want to go eat out with a stranger. But the catch was, I was so busy with school in that particular week so I suggested the week after immediately. She had something planned in her own life so nothing was arranged. Side Note: She messages back slower than 2 sloths f#$3king. And that's at least once a day. Anyways I asked her again a week later on the same day in the week (Tuesday), assuming that was her day off, but she said she was running errands for the attendance of EDC. Anywho, at that very moment when I offered, she replied back with, "lets plan something out after EDC". Of course I gave my overly excited reply. Anyways, after EDC, college summer school work started getting more time consuming. Three days passed after EDC and I messaged her on the likes of, "I dont want you to think I disappeared or why Im not following up, School put me on death ground but I would still love to do something after my exam date." Exam date is July 6. She replied back, "Idk my schedule yet for next month (July) but we'll figure it out and yea good luck!". In response, I basically told her, along the likes of, "I know were both busy, and i hate to keep extending the meet up further and further out. So pick your best day and we'll go for it." She replied back, "Haha ok we'll get it figured out" QUESTION IS. LET ME KNOW IF I SCREWED UP. AM I ON THE RIGHT TRACK?. WHAT CAN I DO BETTER. I NEED ADVICE AND COACHING. AND IF SHE IS STILL INTERESTED IN ME OR AM I BEING LEAD ON. THANX. Edited June 30, 2015 by Koans
mapofyourhead Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 To put myself in her shoes, I would've been a bit skeptical after you agreed to a date, then changed it due to schoolwork. No matter how busy I've been with school or work, I can free up an hour or two. After that, both of you made vague plans and it hasn't gone anywhere. At this point, I would pick a specific day (or two), ask her about it, and if she doesn't agree to it or suggest another day she could do, then I would leave it alone. 1
Author Koans Posted July 1, 2015 Author Posted July 1, 2015 (edited) Girls are silly. I didn't change the plans. She suggested a date then I suggested another date. I didn't initially agree to anything. And by her hella slow responses of texting once a day, that's been going for a month, I'm gonna get the inclination that she's not interested. A friend read my message and said I appeared to be wayyy too nice and gay. I think her attraction towards me worn down over time with these overly excited bubbly text. Nice guys finish last. Example: "Hi Demi! Im looking forward to planning out something. Id still like to get to know you. Imavailable such and such date if you're interested" I guess that does sound mad gay ^^^ Edited July 1, 2015 by Koans
Capri Kiwi Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 I've kinda done this before, but also have had this done to me, so I know how annoying it can be when there's a non-committal sort of response. I'd say she's interested, but not enough to make an effort, or at least dating just may not be her priority in life right now. Also consider that if she's only a but interested, and you guys work together, it's very possible that one of you would quickly decide to call it quits....and maybe things could get awkward. Not sure if this is really what's going thru her mind (of course, nobody knows but her), but it's an educated guess.
Lansing Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 Oh man.. .yeah, based on what you quoted.. you were too eager. Nothing about being a "nice guy".. but, just making things weird. I would back off completely and just leave it. Move on and date at least another girl. If you still are thinking about this girl after then make once last attempt to ask her out but don't send messages like THAT!
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