guest569 Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 (edited) You do realize it's an online first "meet" right? Dinner is a terrible idea because it's a complete stranger. Since you've never even met the person, you want to keep it as low key and inexpensive as possible. This makes it clear that there are no expectations either way. Yes, I do realise that, but its dinner not a marriage proposal. There is no pressure. Not COMPLLETE strangers. I have been on several lunch or dinner dates and they were great and inexpensive, It's not necessarily a 3 course dinner in a fancy restaurant. I've had men ask me for dinner dates, it never occurred to me to embarrass him by implying that we wont get along well enough to risk wasting $40 on a meal haha (or suggest that he is cheap, I'm happy to pay my own way and if he wants dinner i assume he is not freaking out about the cost of his meal) Edited July 8, 2015 by smiley1
Author JJCaliGirl Posted July 10, 2015 Author Posted July 10, 2015 Update! Went on the dinner date with the 3rd guy. Before going on this date, I chose to let the other 2 guys go. Not because I was hopeful about this guy, but I decided to focus a little more on myself and forgo dating for a bit. I figured that taking some time off would be a good thing. Now the date... This was probably the best first date I have ever had. Even better than the first date with my ex which says a lot because he set the new standard for me. We started off by talking over a glass of wine. Maybe an hour in, he asked if I was hungry. This is one of the parts that made me nervous because one of the things I'm getting back into focus is my health. Since breaking up, I've lost 6 pounds and didn't want to order anything beyond just a salad to keep my nutrition on track. He said he was only going to order a salad which thrilled me! The conversation flowed very well, and we have so much in common from enjoying sports to art to health. He has an amazing smile and made me laugh. I say this because I realized my ex never really made me laugh. Everything was so intense all the time. I think this is why being able to laugh on first dates is going to be a new standard for me. The date lasted 3 hours with a great hug and him giving me a kiss on my cheek. Now before you guys say that if he was into me he would've kissed me properly, the hug lasted longer than I expected and he told me that I smelled great (another thing the ex never told me). We are planning a second date, but I'm letting him take the lead. The only thing that I would say is a negative thing is he's shorter than what I normally look for...5'6". I prefer someone who is between 5'8" and 6' because I can rest my head right on his chest during a hug or when cuddling. For me, it's such a safe feeling. Because he has more positive things going on, this is not a deal breaker for me in the least. An added benefit of meeting a good guy is I was able to see the qualities I am looking for that my ex did not have. At this point, breaking up with him was the best thing I could've ever done for myself.
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