disneyfan90 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Do you tend to be attracted to someone whose personality is more like yours or someone whose personality is totally different? I've been very shy and introverted my entire life. It's only in the past year that I've started to become slightly more outspoken (because my job requires me to talk to people all day long lol), but inside I'm a total introvert. I've only dated two guys before, and both of them were very much on the extroverted side. Both were great guys, and I didn't really have a problem in terms of dating someone who was totally different from me. All this time, I thought that extroverted guys were more my type. But recently I've become overly infatuated with a quiet guy. Unfortunately I work with him so I know that nothing will ever happen and the only thing I can do is suppress my feelings. But there's just something about him that's drawing me to him--In fact, my feelings for him are much stronger than they ever were for any of my exes. I find his mysteriousness so attractive. Everyone at work talks about how quiet he is and how difficult he is to talk to. This frustrates me a bit--Just because he isn't overly bubbly and gregarious like everyone else, it doesn't mean he doesn't talk at all. One of my best friends at work even flat out told me, "I don't like him. He never talks to me." But as a quiet person myself, I somehow feel like I really understand him. I initiate casual conversations with him every now and then and he has really opened up to me. A few coworkers even ask me, "How come he talks to you so easily but never talks to me?" So now I'm thinking that I'm attracted to a more similar personality type. How about you?
phineas Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 I like aggressive, sarcastic perverted women. Most those types of women are on the curvy side with gigantic knockers & are self confident in themselves & their bodies which I find sexy. Plus their really open and sex is funner than fun. considering i'm a legend in my own mind...well just my sexual prowess we mesh well together and have a lot of fun. naked. 1
Phoenician Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 I like her to be a lady when we date , a whore at bed . a real women with all charm arms , who knows what she wants and speak up loud without fears.
S_A Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 Not a single one of my GF's shared the same personality with any of my other GF's, so I can't say I am attracted to a specific type. Actually, my current GF's personality turned out to be way different than what I first thought her personality was like when I first met her. I liked her for what I thought her personality was like when I first met her, and I like/love her personality now.
Spreeley713 Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 I like guys that are more aligned with my personality. I'm outgoing, confident, and know how to balance work and play. I've dated party hard guys, workaholics, and the shy types. Their personalities got annoying after awhile.
soyou Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 I'm bold, direct, aggressive (sometimes), and not afraid of speaking out loud what I think and want. I've been with different types of guys but I think men who are very calm, mature, stable, and witty will be able to deal with me. I'm very much attached to guys who are sweet and caring but at the same time know their boundaries, which battles to take, and know when to kick my ass whenever I try to cross the borders :D
writergal Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 Guys who have my sense of humor, similar personality to mine and the exact same values and beliefs.
Tayla Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 To clarify, which personality type? Type A or Type B? Is that what you are asking of us here? There are different character traits but they are not necessarily the "personality" per se. SO I reckon I like ApointB. A mixture of flexible and inflexible. Who can bend and yield , who is artistic and analytical, who is timely and carefree. WHo is private in some ways and socialable in kind. Who is proficient yet not perfection seeking. Well balanced. So whichever category that falls into, thats the personality that seems endearing and compatible.
carhill Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 Do you tend to be attracted to someone whose personality is more like yours or someone whose personality is totally different? Historically, all the women I've had relationships with or was married to were generally similar in personality. I've been very shy and introverted my entire life. It's only in the past year that I've started to become slightly more outspoken (because my job requires me to talk to people all day long lol), but inside I'm a total introvert. I've only dated two guys before, and both of them were very much on the extroverted side. Both were great guys, and I didn't really have a problem in terms of dating someone who was totally different from me. Sometimes introverts mesh OK with extraverts where the differences aren't so polar as to cause discomfort or friction. Also, each person's tolerance for differences in personality is unique. Some people are more accepting than others. All this time, I thought that extroverted guys were more my type. But recently I've become overly infatuated with a quiet guy. Unfortunately I work with him so I know that nothing will ever happen and the only thing I can do is suppress my feelings. But there's just something about him that's drawing me to him--In fact, my feelings for him are much stronger than they ever were for any of my exes. I find his mysteriousness so attractive. Going with that, explore it with a similar man away from work where interactions are acceptable and not forbidden and compare how you feel. Sometimes forbidden can be an attraction all its own. Everyone at work talks about how quiet he is and how difficult he is to talk to. This frustrates me a bit--Just because he isn't overly bubbly and gregarious like everyone else, it doesn't mean he doesn't talk at all. One of my best friends at work even flat out told me, "I don't like him. He never talks to me." But as a quiet person myself, I somehow feel like I really understand him. I initiate casual conversations with him every now and then and he has really opened up to me. A few coworkers even ask me, "How come he talks to you so easily but never talks to me?" Perhaps he senses a kindred spirit. It's unknown. I've had plenty of experiences with women where we meshed in that way but there was no romance or attraction there, rather simply two humans who interacted well. As a man, and a historically reserved and quiet one, I know from experience that strong attraction ramps up the impulse to be more outgoing with a particular lady. Sure, each man is different but I'll offer that is one example. So now I'm thinking that I'm attracted to a more similar personality type. How about you? I used to give thought to such matters as a young man but these days I don't think about details anymore, rather simply interact, or not, and life goes on. I guess all the analysis and purposeful stuff has its place and I simply don't have the energy for it anymore. So, to sum up, since you apparently can't date this guy at work even if you wanted to and he wanted to, you can take the information learned and try it out outside of work with other men who have similar personalities. See what happens. 1
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