Tracey123 Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 For those of you who have read any of my posts, my guy is in a major depression and it is destroying our relationship. In fact, I don't even know if we are in one or not.........really, that's the truth. I've seen him 1x in one month. He dropped over to my house 1 week ago last Wed after a rehearsal and it was like keeping company with a drain hole, no kidding. We were supposed to go out to see a friend of mine play one week ago Saturday night and he canceled with my that morning saying he wasn't in the right head space so I went with a girlfriend. We talked on Sunday a couple of times and all was good but there wasn't any "hi hon, or bye hon or Ok sweetie", which would be usual. So on Monday night, I pop into the music store where he works as I teach guitar right around the corner, and ended up leaving quietly, buy pissed just the same, because the store wasn't that busy, but I felt blown off. Then he calls me when he gets home asking why I left and I said I felt like an idiot standing around and decided to go home. It was a turning point for me. I just didn't feel any excitement coming from him and I have been cool with him since. I mean, like come on! I have been depressed so I really get it, but the problem that is in OUR relationship if lack of commitment. You know, every relationship hits 'that point'. It's like.........."Ok, what the heck are we doing here?" Anyway, I spoke to him a couple of times through the week and he asks me if I was sleeping on Wednesday night when he called and I told him no, I was out with my friend Sue for drinks and wings. I know he hates it when I go out but what the heck am I supposed to do???? Stay at home alone every night while he does the same? SO, I am letting him do some thinking, I guess. I hate to think of this as game playing but we are creatures by nature and if the thrill of the hunt is over, men seem to take you for granted. I read an article where this girl was seeing a guy for 4 years and wanted a commitment and he kept faltering so she dropped him like a hot potato and before you know, he was ready to do whatever he could to have her.....and that was pay the ultimate price ...a commitment. Thanks for listening to my frustration on a Sunday afternoon that I am classifying as a 'Really bad day'. I haven't spoke to him since Thursday night. And I feel just as depressed as him, I'm sure.
laRubiaBonita Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 when an Optional relationship makes you feel more crappy than good and happy....why torture yourself? plus, sounds like he has some stuff to deal with by himself, and not be "bothered" by his once a month visit from his GF. Be good to Yourself!
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