BrowEyes112 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 So the backstory is that I left my boyfriend of two years for this guy who was flirting with me. I was madly in love with my boyfriend but at the time, I was depressed and hated my job and hated where I live. On top of that, I have a ton due in student loans that made it impossible to ever live on my own. The first month we were together, it was amazing. He took me on three weekend trips and he loves instagram so he would post photos of us all the time. However, in the past two months, things have changed. I noticed that he hasn't posted a picture of us in 2 and 1/2 months and that he even deleted one of the two of us. He also hasn't planned any trips for us besides a wedding he was invited to. Things started getting iffy when in mid April, he books a trip to the Virgin Islands by himself for 10 days. While he was there, he posted all of these photos of himself with random couples and groups of friends. When he got back, he took me to a wedding but didn't post any photos of us, just of his friends. The next week, I left for a trip with my family for two weeks (which bothered me because I planned my trip a year in advance and my boyfriend was aware that I would be gone for two weeks but he still planned his island trip). Before I leave, he tells me that he wants to go to Europe and that he booked two weeks across the continent by himself and would be leaving the week after I got back. So he goes to Europe and is posting all of these photos and I notice that only girls were commenting on them. One of the girls tells him to meet up with her in Italy and he changes his travel plans to meet up with her and her friends for two days. He only mentioned this to me once he was there because he told me he was just going to visit the site by himself. A week after he comes back, I had to ask him to post a photo of us from a party the night before and he does it, but acts aloof as to why I care so much. Backstory on this guy: He comes from a lot of money and likes to have this image through his instagram where he posts pictures of himself with other girls and in private jets. What do you guys think is going on?
darkmoon Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 (edited) looks like his girlfreinds have to share him, he might never mature as his life can never be bad, same thing all the time, so there is no growth or growing up cool your jets, but enjoy the ride for he is a playboy, buying fun, used to everything Edited June 29, 2015 by darkmoon
Redhead14 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 So the backstory is that I left my boyfriend of two years for this guy who was flirting with me. I was madly in love with my boyfriend but at the time, I was depressed and hated my job and hated where I live. On top of that, I have a ton due in student loans that made it impossible to ever live on my own. The first month we were together, it was amazing. He took me on three weekend trips and he loves instagram so he would post photos of us all the time. However, in the past two months, things have changed. I noticed that he hasn't posted a picture of us in 2 and 1/2 months and that he even deleted one of the two of us. He also hasn't planned any trips for us besides a wedding he was invited to. Things started getting iffy when in mid April, he books a trip to the Virgin Islands by himself for 10 days. While he was there, he posted all of these photos of himself with random couples and groups of friends. When he got back, he took me to a wedding but didn't post any photos of us, just of his friends. The next week, I left for a trip with my family for two weeks (which bothered me because I planned my trip a year in advance and my boyfriend was aware that I would be gone for two weeks but he still planned his island trip). Before I leave, he tells me that he wants to go to Europe and that he booked two weeks across the continent by himself and would be leaving the week after I got back. So he goes to Europe and is posting all of these photos and I notice that only girls were commenting on them. One of the girls tells him to meet up with her in Italy and he changes his travel plans to meet up with her and her friends for two days. He only mentioned this to me once he was there because he told me he was just going to visit the site by himself. A week after he comes back, I had to ask him to post a photo of us from a party the night before and he does it, but acts aloof as to why I care so much. Backstory on this guy: He comes from a lot of money and likes to have this image through his instagram where he posts pictures of himself with other girls and in private jets. What do you guys think is going on? How long have you been seeing each other? What is the relationship status? But, bottomline, it doesn't matter what's going on. Hit the reset button. Let him lead from now on. Don't initiate anything with him. Be receptive, but sit back a little and let him demonstrate to you what he wants now. It's a difficult thing to do, you'll want to reach out, you'll want to pull him in, but contain yourself. Allowing this will enable you to see things more clearly and evaluate the relationship. If he calls, you answer. If it's been a few days, whatever, don't question him. Just say it's nice to hear from him and listen to what he has to say. If he doesn't ask to see you, don't suggest anything. Let him do this for a month and observe.
changeofseasons Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 These guys that are so obsessed with their image on instagram or facebook are bitch ass pussies. They're so self-absorbed its disgusting and he may have possibly been using you for his image.
Author BrowEyes112 Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 We've been seeing each other for three months and I asked him about his trips and the other girls. He said the other girls were friends (whom I've never met) and he needed the trips to unwind. But i don't understand why he would want to go without me? I thought the first three months, we were supposed to be inseperable? Any yes, we're in an exclusive relationship.
Keenly Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Am I understanding this correctly? I feel like there is part of the story missing or I am misinterpreting it. Is the situation that you left your boyfriend of 2 years to be with a guy who was flirting with you and now a few weeks later the new guy isn't living up to it?
Gary S Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Sounds like you are getting what you deserve for being a mooch. Next time, get a roommate and wait two years to move in with a boyfriend, until you know it's meant to last.
Author BrowEyes112 Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 Am I understanding this correctly? I feel like there is part of the story missing or I am misinterpreting it. Is the situation that you left your boyfriend of 2 years to be with a guy who was flirting with you and now a few weeks later the new guy isn't living up to it? I don't know, he still takes me out and things like that but my girlfriends have asked me why he travels without me and I told him it was because I used all my vacation time with the trip with my dad.
veggirl Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 How often do you see him? Sounds like if he's not cheating on you, he's at least trying to portray himself as single to SOMEONE.
Author BrowEyes112 Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 In the first month, i would see him all the time. Obviously with his vacations, i've seen him for 2 weeks in the past month.
Leigh 87 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 What did you expect? Men with money and private jets are only going to settle for absolutely stunning girls. Their money is a currency. They have access to the world's hottest women providing they're not ugly.
Author BrowEyes112 Posted June 30, 2015 Author Posted June 30, 2015 I just need some insight in to what do to do here. Is he planning these trips to get away from me or his he just not wanting to be held down by a relationship?
Author BrowEyes112 Posted June 30, 2015 Author Posted June 30, 2015 Because when we are together, he still takes me to dinners and to concerts. it's the time being away with the trips that bothers me. He told me wasn't disloyal to me when he was away but he never told me about meeting up with the other girls until he was in europe.
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