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Dealing with a side of your recent ex you didn't know existed.

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I suppose a better question to ask here is this - Handling a situation where you're being ignored for not putting up with being publicly humiliated by someone you thought cared about you?

 

I was seeing a girl that I met and enjoyed time with on a online competitive gaming team. All contact has now been blocked and a post was made by this girl publicly humiliating me in front of everyone on facebook.

 

I have never seen this side of her, Her friends said a few things being smart asses but I chose not to give in and act on anger or emotion in reply. Myself and my family have been quite good to her. She is not working and has a 3 yo. I am not the father. She also suffers from chronic fatigue syndrome and is bi sexual. She has currently left the team and is ignoring me.

 

How should I proceed to try and rebuild the bridge or should I walk away? I thought about giving it a week or two then sending a letter to her. She lives 50 mins from my location and she never sees her so called friends or have I ever met them. This friend was meant to take her out for dinner knowing I was going out with my male friends and it was never ran by me.

 

She is not working at all - I asked about the guy and basically turned around stating to her friends I thought she was having sex with one of her friends. Which is not what I asked, I asked simply to get the facts and make sure she was going to be ok as I have not met this person. I know she had sexual encounters with this guy years ago.

 

Some of the comments on facebook were very immature and not needed, She added my mother some time ago to facebook and she saw it as well. One of her comments was his mum is most likely reading this so everyone say hi! Sorry your son things I'm ****ing my friend.

 

Before I asked about the guy she publicly made a comment about myself and her friends whom have never met me were calling me an idiot. All this happened after asking about her friend privately on PM. I'm quite disappointed with her. I trust her in knowing she would never do anything as she has been burned before she was in a bad physical relationship with another I believe that is the father. She is mature in so many ways yet this is a side I have not seen I was surprised it is possible she is afraid of commitment and I do care for her and the little one and right now don't know what road to take!

 

I told her I wanted some space but I believe she now believes its all over, Her last msg on the phone was pretty much don't msg me I will block you on my phone if I must just f off mate.

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ravfour4 Established Member

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She sounds super immature and crazy. Get rid of her.

d0nnivain Established Member

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The nature of the comments makes it apparent to anyone that she is not stable. When crazy people badmouth you, that does not reflect badly on you. You have not been humiliated. Block her. Have everyone you care about block her & move on with your life. You can't fix her.

 

If you are religious say a prayer for her kid but after that never give her a second thought.

DexterLS Established Member

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I hope she finds the help she obviously needs but, she is not your problem anymore.

 

Stick with NC.

SoThatHappened Established Member

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a post was made by this girl publicly humiliating me in front of everyone on facebook.

 

She is not working and has a 3 yo.

 

She also suffers from chronic fatigue syndrome and is bi sexual.

 

She is not working at all

 

Some of the comments on facebook were very immature and not needed,

 

One of her comments was his mum is most likely reading this so everyone say hi! Sorry your son things I'm ****ing my friend.

 

Her last msg on the phone was pretty much don't msg me I will block you on my phone if I must just f off mate.

 

All of this spells RUN!

 

At least you don't live in the same town. Just act like she died. Seriously. Stay away from this train wreck.

 

I fell hard for a girl who had some serious issues, red flags that I overlooked.

 

I have now been NC for over a year, and I'm so glad I got out of that toxic relationship when I did.

 

You have some co-dependency issues you need to work on.

 

Again, act like she died, block every possible form of contact, and don't even THINK of trying to get back together. Just run dude.

elaine567 Established Member

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I told her I wanted some space but I believe she now believes its all over, Her last msg on the phone was pretty much don't msg me I will block you on my phone if I must just f off mate.

 

You dumped her and she is angry, hurt and upset and has taken to social media to take out her frustration and to garner support.

Many do.

 

If you want her back then go to her in person and make it very clear that you do trust her and love her and you do want to make things work.

Do it now, as leaving things to fester will make it more difficult to reconcile.

 

But if you really are through with her, then keep up the NC.

SoThatHappened Established Member

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If you want her back then go to her in person and make it very clear that you do trust her and love her and you do want to make things work.

Do it now, as leaving things to fester will make it more difficult to reconcile.

Respectfully, I strongly advise that you ignore this and just bail. Seriously.

 

It's for your own good.

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I suppose a better question to ask here is this - Handling a situation where you're being ignored for not putting up with being publicly humiliated by someone you thought cared about you?

 

I was seeing a girl that I met and enjoyed time with on a online competitive gaming team. All contact has now been blocked and a post was made by this girl publicly humiliating me in front of everyone on facebook.

 

I have never seen this side of her, Her friends said a few things being smart asses but I chose not to give in and act on anger or emotion in reply. Myself and my family have been quite good to her. She is not working and has a 3 yo. I am not the father. She also suffers from chronic fatigue syndrome and is bi sexual. She has currently left the team and is ignoring me.

 

How should I proceed to try and rebuild the bridge or should I walk away? I thought about giving it a week or two then sending a letter to her. She lives 50 mins from my location and she never sees her so called friends or have I ever met them. This friend was meant to take her out for dinner knowing I was going out with my male friends and it was never ran by me.

 

She is not working at all - I asked about the guy and basically turned around stating to her friends I thought she was having sex with one of her friends. Which is not what I asked, I asked simply to get the facts and make sure she was going to be ok as I have not met this person. I know she had sexual encounters with this guy years ago.

 

Some of the comments on facebook were very immature and not needed, She added my mother some time ago to facebook and she saw it as well. One of her comments was his mum is most likely reading this so everyone say hi! Sorry your son things I'm ****ing my friend.

 

Before I asked about the guy she publicly made a comment about myself and her friends whom have never met me were calling me an idiot. All this happened after asking about her friend privately on PM. I'm quite disappointed with her. I trust her in knowing she would never do anything as she has been burned before she was in a bad physical relationship with another I believe that is the father. She is mature in so many ways yet this is a side I have not seen I was surprised it is possible she is afraid of commitment and I do care for her and the little one and right now don't know what road to take!

 

I told her I wanted some space but I believe she now believes its all over, Her last msg on the phone was pretty much don't msg me I will block you on my phone if I must just f off mate.

Dude, was the trying to repel you, coz that is disgusting behavior?

 

I'm sorry but she sound like a dumb a.r.s.e...

elaine567 Established Member

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Respectfully, I strongly advise that you ignore this and just bail. Seriously.

 

It's for your own good.

 

Yes, she is acting like an idiot, but the OP needs to make up his own mind whether the relationship he had with this girl and her kid is more important to him, than her having a hissy fit publicly after being dumped.

Many people act completely out of character and go a bit mad, when they are dumped, it is hardly uncommon.

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Her "hissy fit" is the least of her issues...

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