tom1666 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Hi all On no contact now for 3 weeks. Not spoken once. I can't help but check her FB and Instagram though. Noticed today she's just removed me as a friend, and my two friends who she did get on very well with. Any reasons why? She's still following me on Instagram though. Maybe she's been thinking of me, not sure. It wasn't a bad break up, I left with a lot of dignity and said I don't hate her and she said she'd understand if I did. She just said it wasn't working out for her basically. Does hurt when I realised this...
ravfour4 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 If she removed you and your buddies as friends, she may have moved on to someone new and doesn't want you to know. She's still following you because she wants to keep tabs on you, probably cares about you as a person and may want to keep you as a back up plan. 1
Author tom1666 Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 If she removed you and your buddies as friends, she may have moved on to someone new and doesn't want you to know. She's still following you because she wants to keep tabs on you, probably cares about you as a person and may want to keep you as a back up plan. Thanks for your reply. It was a sudden break up out of the blue and she did deny there was no one else... Your theory would make sense. Just feel quite annoyed and upset that I've been removed after there was no bad feelings towards each other and it's taken her 3 weeks to delete me. I want to ask her why but what will that achieve... 1
darkbloom Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 If you are checking her social media, you are not doing NC. 3
aloneinaz Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 For clarity, NC means no viewing the exes social media, what so ever. Also, when relationships end, most of the time, people will block and dump people from their Facebook and other social media. You're not friends anymore and there is no reason to be connected thru social media either. You need to understand when she ended it, she was saying "I don't want you in my life anymore". Why would she want you on social media? Why do you want to see or keep tabs on someone who didn't want you? Stay strong. Remove and block her from all social media. There's no value in keeping tabs. She has no right to keep tabs on you and as such, you should vanish from her life so you can heal and move onto your next great relationship. 2
Satu Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 (edited) You're not doing NC, but you can start doing it if you want. Edited June 29, 2015 by Satu 1
Author tom1666 Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 I appreciate the comments to an extent that NC should be no social media but it wasn't a breakup where I needed to remove her from my life all together. We split on good terms but we have not spoken for 3 weeks now. I don't hate her, and I don't even want her back desperately. I just don't know why she would delete me like that all of a sudden. My guess is she has moved on from me completely, even without wanting to stay friends at the least. 1
SankeCoffee Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Don't worry about it. I noticed that I was blocked today again by my ex gf on FB after being broken up for more than 2 months and having no contact. It has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you. This is the second time this happened to me, She blocked / unblocked me a month after we split. I unfriended her when we split, so its not like we could even see the other persons profile and what they are up to. Kinda stung the first time she did it, Now I just laugh about it. 2
Satu Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 I just don't know why she would delete me like that all of a sudden. My guess is she has moved on from me completely, even without wanting to stay friends at the least. She just doesn't want you in her life. All you have to do is to accept that and adapt to your changed circumstances. Asking *why* just makes it harder to move on. She probably doesn't even know *why* herself. It probably just felt like the right thing to do. If you want to, you can move on, and find happiness without her. It's not so hard. 1
aloneinaz Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 I appreciate the comments to an extent that NC should be no social media but it wasn't a breakup where I needed to remove her from my life all together. We split on good terms but we have not spoken for 3 weeks now. I don't hate her, and I don't even want her back desperately. I just don't know why she would delete me like that all of a sudden. My guess is she has moved on from me completely, even without wanting to stay friends at the least. The majority will tell you that even after a break up that wasn't nasty, it's still not good to stay connected on any level until lots of time has passed and the people are no longer emotional about it. This usually is a couple of years if not more. I'm FB friends with a few exes but I haven't dated them in a couple decades either. It's normal for people to remove the ex from social media. I wouldn't take it personal. She ended it with you and as the other person said, maybe she's moved onto someone new. She doesn't want you to be able to see what she's up to or who with. Again, that would be normal. Focus on you and your healing and moving forward. There's no value in putting energy or thought into something from your past that you can't change. 1
Author tom1666 Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 Thanks for all the replies/support, I really appreciate it. It'll get easier, I know that. Just feel so mugged off when I was so civil towards her considering, we had a clean break up and agreed no bad feelings. To be removed as a FB friend is just a low blow in my opinion. Just angry all of a sudden now..
changeofseasons Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 I think some of these replies are kinda harsh. Don't take it personal, if you ended on good terms she probably doesnt want the pain of seeing you on social media anymore, and wants to move on. Instagram isnt as in your face as facebook so its easier to avoid people, and also once you block someone on instagram its hard to unblock.
prd Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 My ex gf broke up with me and 3 or 4 days later she deleted me and my best friend off facebook. A mutual friend told me it was because it upset to her to see any of our check-in's/statuses together and she didn't want any reminders/wanted to move on. She was still following me on Instagram though for a month after the break up, then finally unfollowed me. I don't use Instagram much so I think she probably just forgot. I wouldn't look too much into it.
Chi townD Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Hi all On no contact now for 3 weeks. Not spoken once. I can't help but check her FB and Instagram though. Noticed today she's just removed me as a friend, and my two friends who she did get on very well with. Any reasons why? She's still following me on Instagram though. Maybe she's been thinking of me, not sure. It wasn't a bad break up, I left with a lot of dignity and said I don't hate her and she said she'd understand if I did. She just said it wasn't working out for her basically. Does hurt when I realised this... Dude, she deleted you and two of your close friends. I hate to say it, but I'm going to have to agree with the other poster. There's someone else and she shielding you from discovering it. And yeah, she'll deny it to you because she can probably say to you that she didn't cheat on you. That's how she can justify it and deny it. But, she wasn't PHYSICALLY cheating on you. Chances are, she got emotionally involved with someone else. So much so that she dropped you to take a chance with this other person. But, if this is the case, confronting her with it will do you no good because you'll get the textbook responses from her like "He isn't the reason why we broke up." or "Nothing happened while you and I were together." I just find it very suspect that she would delete you along with both of your close friends. Tells me she doesn't want word getting back to you. Especially if she with someone new in less than 21 days of being your exclusive girlfriend.
Satu Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 When someone tells you its over, it is over. Apart from healing, there's nothing else to do.
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