Zerdux Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 So me and my girlfriend broke up over a week ago and yesterday,I drove down to hers for the last time to speak about our relationship and if we can work it out.So we spoke about everything,I let my heart out saying that how much I love her and how I want to try and fix the little problems we had in our relationsip.She said that she is happy now and her feelings had changed,but I know she still loves me,but the love for me she has is covered deeply by layers just now I believe.When we were saying goodbye we hugged each other very strongly and she was crying a lot.Why would she cry so much?I just don't know what to expect.Should I go NC?Will she start realising after some time what she had and want to get back together?I still do really love her and care for her and she said she care for me to. Advice please?
Yummm Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 I'm sorry this has happened. How long were you together? You poured your heart out, you told her how you feel and she knows how you feel so no need to do it again. You can't force somebody to change her mind, she was crying because she does care and it was hard for her, but she made up her mind. Now if you start messaging her/pleading with her you will ruin any chances there could possibly be. You need to go strict NC, move forward and heal. No contact, no responding to ANY messages apart from "I have made a mistake and will do anything to get you back". Give you and her some space to heal and once your emotions have settled you'll be able to make more rational decisions. Post here when you need, goodluck buddy.
Author Zerdux Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 I'm sorry this has happened. How long were you together? You poured your heart out, you told her how you feel and she knows how you feel so no need to do it again. You can't force somebody to change her mind, she was crying because she does care and it was hard for her, but she made up her mind. Now if you start messaging her/pleading with her you will ruin any chances there could possibly be. You need to go strict NC, move forward and heal. No contact, no responding to ANY messages apart from "I have made a mistake and will do anything to get you back". Give you and her some space to heal and once your emotions have settled you'll be able to make more rational decisions. Post here when you need, goodluck buddy. Thanks for the reply.We were in a relationship for over a year and really had a happy time.So I should just go NC and only reply if she wants to change things between us and I should see a very big effort from her before letting her back if we will,yeah?Tanks.
Yummm Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 That sounds alright, but the point of NC is to heal and move on WITHOUT her. You will not help your healing if you try to get over her thinking that she will come back or re-approach you. It's only been a week, it's very fresh and you will experience many up and downs. Just know that it does get easier, ride the waves, post here when you feel weak and DO NOT MESSAGE her. Block and delete her from social media, your phone, do it now so that you won't prolong your healing and hurt yourself later. Do everything that you need to do to get rid of her now, because it's very fresh and won't set you back.
Author Zerdux Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 That sounds alright, but the point of NC is to heal and move on WITHOUT her. You will not help your healing if you try to get over her thinking that she will come back or re-approach you. It's only been a week, it's very fresh and you will experience many up and downs. Just know that it does get easier, ride the waves, post here when you feel weak and DO NOT MESSAGE her. Block and delete her from social media, your phone, do it now so that you won't prolong your healing and hurt yourself later. Do everything that you need to do to get rid of her now, because it's very fresh and won't set you back. The thing is that I do want things to work,because we had planned so many things together and we had a special relationship.I will go NC,and try to move on as if I have to start living for the better for myself,but I am willing to give it a chance if she will truly show me that she will want it the way it was.Because I think at the moment she is just lost in her thoughts and maybe she just needs some space and time to realise everything.
Yummm Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 I know exactly how you feel, but that's called 'denial stage', it's freshly after the breakup. It hasn't sunk in yet, you don't think it's real, you think she's confused and will change her mind. I guess that sometimes this is the case, but 99% of the time it's not. You met her, told her how you feel and she still didn't want to make things work. Most of us want to still be with our ex's, but when we go strict NC and have time to heal and let our emotions settle we realise we don't want these people in our lives who can drop us so quickly. Move forward buddy. 1
Author Zerdux Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 I know exactly how you feel, but that's called 'denial stage', it's freshly after the breakup. It hasn't sunk in yet, you don't think it's real, you think she's confused and will change her mind. I guess that sometimes this is the case, but 99% of the time it's not. You met her, told her how you feel and she still didn't want to make things work. Most of us want to still be with our ex's, but when we go strict NC and have time to heal and let our emotions settle we realise we don't want these people in our lives who can drop us so quickly. Move forward buddy. Ok,thank you for a great and generous advice.I'll let know how things work out.For now I'll just live for myself,and prioritse my life.
Fleur de cactus Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Sorry your heart is broken. She told you that her feelings for you changed. You are thinking that she is still loves you. Very much you are under a shock. Your mind says" I cannot believe she does not love me anymore". That is normal. However she believes in what she said and she meant it. try to forget about her, live happy so that she will hear good things about you, and move on. Good luck.
Author Zerdux Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 Sorry your heart is broken. She told you that her feelings for you changed. You are thinking that she is still loves you. Very much you are under a shock. Your mind says" I cannot believe she does not love me anymore". That is normal. However she believes in what she said and she meant it. try to forget about her, live happy so that she will hear good things about you, and move on. Good luck. Thank you,I will do.We both said we don't know what future holds and what might happen.
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