lostboyfromsouth Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 (edited) So my Ex? Broke up with me three weeks ago saying she wants a break off and that we should have no contact for a month but then meet up to talk and see how things are? Is she doing this just to be kind or could she actually want to be back together? I'm so nervous about meeting her because what if she says she's happier without me? I don't want to move on from her because I love this girl with every part of me! Any help would be brilliant! I suffered with needyness, paranoia and being clingy. She said when she broke up with me that if I love her I'll give her the space! Which I have done! Her best friend has sent me messages every now and then with just normal things but I haven't replied to anything. Also my ex put up a photo of her looking happy, also a video of her stroking a dog and a song in the back ground saying 'I stopped crying in the instant that I left you, and I don't know when where or why or how' am I just reading to much into that? I have no idea what this 'meet up' is about but I'm sort of looking forward to seeing her but I'm dreading that this time it will the the proper end... Also she said that she needs to stand on her own two feet for a bit. Does she miss me at all? She said to my friend that were still on this 'break thing' so does that mean we're not broken up? Edited June 29, 2015 by lostboyfromsouth More story
ravfour4 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Put simply, she's confused. Part of her misses you and part of her is happy she's single. You meeting up could range from her being terribly cold to wanting to reconcile - we just can't know. Meet up and test the waters just in case and then go back to NC if it's not what you want. Hope for the best and expect the worst.
aloneinaz Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Look at this situation rationally. She needed a break from you and your self described issues that may have contributed to her asking for the break. Now, she wants to meet w/you 3 weeks later. Why? We don't know but the odds would be she wants to formally end it. Usually a break is the first step in breaking up. Now, the other thing could be that she misses you and may want to try again. What are you going to do different this time so she doesn't reach the point of wanting a break again? You just need to go into this meeting with eyes wide open. The relationship wasn't working for her the first time. Will it the second? Are you capable of making changes? Is she capable of making changes as well? If the answer is no, then you have to wonder what value there is in restarting a relationship that didn't work the first time.
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