Alley00pster Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 (edited) So my first post here is gonna be depressing.. I'm a 26 year old male. I'm quite active. I play soccer and basketball. So I'm pretty slim but I'm like 6'3. I'm always trying to make others around me laugh and one friend basically said my attitude alone can just make a entire table start smiling. I love traveling and experiencing new things. I went to VCU for college and now have a decent job. Yet I have no luck finding someone. I've tried online sites like match and free sites. I've tried apps. It seems like everyone around me finds happiness and I can't find anything. It's like I'm unloveable. My best friends even say I just must have the worst luck personal life wise. It's not like my standards are high. I just want a nice sweet woman. I mean after the last few relationships ending with the girl being a jerk and the other cheating a nice woman all I want. Funny thing is I had no luck in a college that is known for being good to guys in the dating side because it like 65% women. Not like I've been looking for models are anything. I was out with my best friend and his wife yesterday at a amusement park and I saw plenty of girls I found attractive all around the park. I wondered to myself why I couldn't find one the entire time. Recently I thought maybe I was finally catching a break when I meet this sweet cute girl. Late college girl. Then after a few dates she said I was everything she was looking for (charming, sweet, goofy, funny) but she couldn't never see anything romantic between us. I don't think I'm Brad Pitt but I do stay in shape with working out and sports so I guess I thought I was decently attractive. Been questioning that recently after that happened though. I guess I'm just starting to think there's no one there for me. I can't say this to my friends but I've been bottling this up and needed to get it out. Edited June 29, 2015 by Alley00pster
Gaeta Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Finding someone is not suppose to be easy. I have been searching for close to 4 years now and had gazillions of dates and micro-relationships that don't last. Some get it easy, I get it hard, nothing I can do about it but to accept it and try to have fun along my journey. So what's your option? Just continue searching till you find cause if you don't put an effort in meeting someone no love-of-your-life will fall on your lap by magic.
Lansing Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 My suggestion maybe would be to stop "trying" for a bit. Like, still be social, get out and meet new people. Make new friends (male and female) and do things that interest you but maybe stop trying to "Date". Personally, I don't find online dating natural. I might try it again down the road but I have had better luck volunteering, going to social events/concerts/etc, joining groups, than via online dating. With the most recent girl maybe she just didn't feel the "spark"... You can be decent looking but even two models together might find that the spark/connection is lacking.
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