BRHW Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 Hello i'm BrainRightHeartWrong, computer is wrecked so lost passwords etc. anyhow... still not over my ex, we broke up last christmas, i was doing no contact with her... she knew my grandmother was dying and she asked me to tell her when she did pass away, so 2 weeks ago my grandmother did eventually pass away i was very close to her, lived with her for 10 years, she was very sick and in terrible pain, in a home for 2 years then in hospital for 6 months... she is in a better place now! hopefully heaven if there is one! ... so i texted my ex the news and she phoned me immediately, she sent a mass card... which was nice last week she is texting me again asking how i am doing, i didn't reply i hate being ignorant but i don't want her screwing with my head anymore like she did i still love her but i know she is nuts and would probably ruin my life, i am still suffering from various anxieties after the way she treated me there is a new girl who really likes me, but this week i had to tell her this isn't going anywhere as for one... i'm still not over my ex! help!
lindya Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 Really sorry to hear about your grandmother. You'll be at a really vulnerable point just now, and it's often at times like that people crave the company of exes who are essentially very bad for them. It leads to further hurt and damage - as you obviously know, given that you're resisting the urge to respond to her last text. She might text again on the basis that you didn't respond when she asked if you were all right. You could reply with a simple text saying "I'm fine thanks" and leave it at that. Why not see if the girl who likes you is happy to just hang out and be friends? There's no rule that says you have to leap into an intimate relationship simply because someone fancies you.
whichwayisup Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 I'm sorry about your loss. That's a rough one. And it was nice that you did contact your EX to let her know. I feel for what you're going through and it's going to be real hard to get involved with somebody UNTIL you get over her. Have you thought of talking to a Councillor? Just for you. To cope, to grieve and learn to let go, move on? I really hope that you can deal with the baggage this woman left in your life. I know what mental illness and the ups/downs of it can do to someone in a relationship. That must be hard living with that stuff. But know it wasn't you, it was her and her issues. i still love her but i know she is nuts and would probably ruin my life, i am still suffering from various anxieties after the way she treated me Tell your EX that you wanted to let her know about your grandmother but now it's time to say goodbye forever. That you'll always care for her, wish her the best but no more contact. You know she isn't right for you...Now somehow, you have to make your heart/mind/body/soul believe JUST that. I'm sure you've read it, but No Foolin's thread about the long guide to NC is an amazing read and that could help you too. Hang in there Brain. Keep venting it out too.
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