still_an_Angel Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 Works both ways IME. Some men who are adventurous find me "exotic". But there are those ones who look down on my race. When I was younger I felt really insulted when people make negative remarks about Asians and lump the entire population of the continent as all one and the same. But I love the shock on their faces when I start to speak and they hear my American accent. I feel deep satisfaction when I edit essays as well and point out that a non-native speaker corrects their spelling, grammar, etc.
No_Go Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 Ohhh, I was so tired of that type of thinking that I applied on my own for permanent residency (in U.S. , but I think it is similar) before I started dating as an immigrant. From somebody that has been through an immigration procedure: obtaining marriage-based permanent residency is much slower than other legitimate options (applying for special skills, employment, investments... ), and lawyer fees even in the worst case scenario are 10x less than your marriage PR number. In Australia it's called "PR" for Permanent Resident, and is the Holy Grail for immigrants. Chinese will pay $100,000 for a fake marriage to secure one! As for the OP's question: NO! NOT IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM WOULD THAT MATTER!!! Anyone who suggest this is a legitimate concern in Australia of all places is a total and utter deluded fool!
yxalitis Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 Works both ways IME. Some men who are adventurous find me "exotic". But there are those ones who look down on my race. When I was younger I felt really insulted when people make negative remarks about Asians and lump the entire population of the continent as all one and the same. But I love the shock on their faces when I start to speak and they hear my American accent. I feel deep satisfaction when I edit essays as well and point out that a non-native speaker corrects their spelling, grammar, etc. What continent would that be...? Sorry, I had to...! My past two years I have dated Asians almost exclusively. I got harassed by non Asians if I let slip my preference. They assume it's because of the "meek and servile" thing, but that's an utter myth! An Asian GF will rule the household! I just prefer the food, the culture, the family bond, and, yes the look. And, yes one had the broadest Aussie accent!
sweetjasmine Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 I came to the US at a young enough age that I don't have an accent, so I "pass" basically 99% of the time as a native born American. People have let quite obnoxious remarks about immigrants spill out because they have no idea I am one, and it's interesting to see their true colors. So, yeah, it can matter and, yeah, some people will view you as less than based on where you were born. Maybe they won't verbalize it, but people who think that way are real and they're out there. My brothers who were all older than me when we emigrated have accents to varying degrees, and the oldest two got made fun of for it when they were younger. It has affected their dating lives, too. Until he was over 25, my oldest brother couldn't get a date with a girl unless she was also an immigrant from our part of the world, and it wasn't from lack of trying or from focusing only on immigrant women. Most of the girlfriends that they brought home have been immigrants, though some from different cultures than ours. I'm actually the only one who's with an American who was born here. So I'm skeptical of people who claim that it's always some great advantage. Having lived it, yeaaaah, not quite. Depends where you are and what you consider an advantage. I'd view being able to screen out sh-theads immediately as a sort of advantage in a way, but it's not like everyone in the world is going to be interested in you because you're "exotic" like some new species of bird at the pet store.
jay1983 Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 If you're a nonwhite male in America, it lowers your dating value drastically.
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