loveflower Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 (edited) It's actually none of my business...but.... this guy which I am fascinated about since the very beginning of last year went to work in a place that only has a few thousand people. One of those coldest and most remote place on earth. I am wondering what is a single guy in his prime year gonna to do in such place? find a girlfriend? (most likely will be different race then), abstinent? fooling around? Edited June 29, 2015 by loveflower
eye of the storm Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 haha this question is right up my wheel house. He is either going to find a friend, get a lot of action from Rosy Red Palm, and or spend a lot of time "online". (which goes back to dear old Rosy and her twin sister) he will be fine.
Gloria25 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Who said he needed a gf? I can guarantee you that he's probably the happiest he's ever been - in the prime of his life. Why do people assume that happiness in your "prime" consists of getting tail? Yes, life is sweeter when you have someone to share it with, but there's more to life than having a bf/gf/so/husband/wife... IMO, problem is too many boys chasing skirt in their teens/tweens/20's instead of getting their education and/or career/job situation straight - then taking on more than they can chew (women and/or kids) before they're ready to do so. I think he's fine where he's at. He needs to earn his way in life and become a man - and working in such a remote area takes some grit on that path to manhood. Also, I think men work out pretty well in "brotherhood" type environments - like the military - where they bond, do guy stuff and work together. 4
Gloria25 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 You know, when I saw American Sniper on Memorial Day weekend, I was pondering this sort of topic - which is, like "Do men really wanna/need to be around women all the time?" Policemen, firemen, military, doctors, lawyers all have very demanding careers - which often take them away from their wives/family. So, you can forget them being home at 5 for dinner. The men are ok with this - not the women. I often wonder if women have a point or not when it comes to this cuz I don't need my guy to be around 24/7 and/or hear from him every day - yet my feelings for him can be as strong as ever and I make up for it when we do see each other. 2
eye of the storm Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 You know, when I saw American Sniper on Memorial Day weekend, I was pondering this sort of topic - which is, like "Do men really wanna/need to be around women all the time?" Policemen, firemen, military, doctors, lawyers all have very demanding careers - which often take them away from their wives/family. So, you can forget them being home at 5 for dinner. The men are ok with this - not the women. I often wonder if women have a point or not when it comes to this cuz I don't need my guy to be around 24/7 and/or hear from him every day - yet my feelings for him can be as strong as ever and I make up for it when we do see each other. I know women policemen, firemen, military, doctors, lawyers etc. and they are not home acting like the 1950 style wife you seem to crave. They are out trying to make the world a better place for both themselves and for others. They do their best to juggle both personal and professional lives...just like the men I know in those professions. I also know military men who are not thrilled with skipping meals with their family. The guy in the OP is deploying somewhere remote, he will probably spend a lot of time with his self for entertainment if he is in a committed relationship or will be chasing anything breathing if he is not (or even if he is for some people) 2
Gloria25 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 I know women policemen, firemen, military, doctors, lawyers etc. and they are not home acting like the 1950 style wife you seem to crave. Well, seems like women back then were made from more sturdier stuff than the creampuffs now a days
Author loveflower Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 I think he's fine where he's at. He needs to earn his way in life and become a man - and working in such a remote area takes some grit on that path to manhood. Also, I think men work out pretty well in "brotherhood" type environments - like the military - where they bond, do guy stuff and work together. huh? someone like him still needs to earn his way in life and become a man? ...he is as educated, as established and as manly as a man can be already. He has lived in many finest places on earth, so I was shocked he suddenly did the opposite. but somehow I think you are right. Some people just never cease to try to be a better person, even they seem to us already the best.
eye of the storm Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 I am not saying the women back then were less than. I am saying less was expected of them. Now we are expected to be just as proficient in their fields as men. And they have more fields than just pie making. (as I type this I cringe my mother reading it. she kept her family going after her H died but she had so few options open to her due to her sex) I know military women on the front lines who go outside the wire daily. They put their honor and their lives on the line just like the men do. Just like the women police/firefighters do. I have seen women (and men) wounded with medics working on them still yelling into radios getting support to their fellow soldiers. They are not creampuffs. They are warriors. Gloria, your comments demean all the women who pull their weight and fight to make the world a better place.
Author loveflower Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 They are out trying to make the world a better place for both themselves and for others. Guess that's why he is there....I don't think it is deploying. I think he just wanted to go there. The guy in the OP is deploying somewhere remote, he will probably spend a lot of time with his self for entertainment if he is in a committed relationship or will be chasing anything breathing if he is not (or even if he is for some people) that sucks...so he will be chasing any woman there?
Clarence_Boddicker Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Did he watch the movie: the Thing (1982), before taking the job? Probably porn & lots of it.
eye of the storm Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Loveflower, there are men and women who go remote places for work and military who stay faithful. Both in thoughts and actions. There are some that don't. Usually the ones that don't will not stay faithful in any situation that allows them the opportunity. The ones that will, will stay faithful no matter what. lol case in point, I had a friend (happily married) call me one night. He let a drunk girl use his bathroom. she came out of the bathroom naked and wouldn't leave. So went into the hall and called me. I removed the naked women and went back to hanging at the bar. The next day his wife called me and said thanks for rescuing her hubby. If this guy had been the type to cheat nobody would have known. And he was fully aware of that. A cheater will find anyway to cheat. An honorable person will not cheat even if nobody would ever find out.
Gloria25 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 I am not saying the women back then were less than. I am saying less was expected of them. Now we are expected to be just as proficient in their fields as men. And they have more fields than just pie making. (as I type this I cringe my mother reading it. she kept her family going after her H died but she had so few options open to her due to her sex) I know military women on the front lines who go outside the wire daily. They put their honor and their lives on the line just like the men do. Just like the women police/firefighters do. I have seen women (and men) wounded with medics working on them still yelling into radios getting support to their fellow soldiers. They are not creampuffs. They are warriors. Gloria, your comments demean all the women who pull their weight and fight to make the world a better place. Got it...making a house a "home", actually raising children (no, not the daycare, babysitter, and/or public school stuff), and being there for your husband were duties for women who were "less than". I'm so glad women now a days have better things to do than that!!! **whew** Quite frankly, comments like yours demean all the women who have been the backbones of families and their husbands. Women in the military, workplace, etc can be easily replaced. The day you die and/or get discharged, terminated, etc - you WILL be replaced. A "mother" and/or "wife" cannot be replaced. The bond between mother and child is so strong that even adopted children spend time to find their natural/biological parents - even if their mum dumped them off in a basket and didn't wanna look back. THAT's how strong the bond is between a mother and child - which cannot be replaced by daycare, maids, public schools. But hey, all the women who got better things to do - like being a worker bee rather than a mother/wife - more power to them. You know, my father, on his death bed said he was sorry he didn't spend time with us instead of his endless hustling for a quick buck - and he's a man. Sadly, many women now a days probably won't "get it" till its too late.
Gloria25 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Guess that's why he is there....I don't think it is deploying. I think he just wanted to go there. that sucks...so he will be chasing any woman there? I don't get your point... Are you in a RL with dude or not? Thing is, yes, he's either gonna masturbate and/or go to easy women. I highly doubt that he's gonna come back married and/or in some RL (well, some military end up together with someone - but, after deployment it usually falls apart). At the end of the day, LDRs put a lot of stress on a RL. The less you're around someone, the harder it is to bond with them and yes, someone that's "local" is probably gonna catch both his and your's eyes. Sorry.... One guy I saw, I tried to keep it going before he deployed and he ended it. Looking back I could see where he was coming from - I mean, when you're deployed, the stress of knowing whether or not your SO is cheating and/or missing them is distracting you from your mission and you can end up killed. But, the way he ended it before he deployed put a bad taste in my mouth. He tried looking me up after he got out and I was so hurt that I didn't trust him and didn't reconcile with him.
eye of the storm Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 I guess I am a minority, I think that dads are just as valuable to a family as the mom. And when a man is killed/terminated they are replaced just as fast as a woman. Everyone, male or female, is replaceable. I am a mom but I never considered that I was more valuable to my kids than their dad. I am not sure how I demean women by saying I am no more valuable in the house than out and how I demean women by saying that my kid's dad was less valuable. My kids (boy and girl) know by watching me that it doesn't matter what sex a person is, they are responsible for their own life and for being a good citizen of the world. My son is currently dating a woman who is smart and working on making the world a better place. He knows that their relationship will have rotating responsibilities. Sometimes he will be taking the lead, sometimes she will. My daughter is aware that she has to always ensure that she is in a position to take care of herself. I have never liked the mom is the backbone of the family because to me that demeans fathers. I am very team oriented. Even though my ExH is my ex I still support his role with the kids as just as valuable as mine. To me, it took two to make em it takes two to raise em
Author loveflower Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 (edited) I don't get your point... Are you in a RL with dude or not? Thing is, yes, he's either gonna masturbate and/or go to easy women. I highly doubt that he's gonna come back married and/or in some RL (well, some military end up together with someone - but, after deployment it usually falls apart). At the end of the day, LDRs put a lot of stress on a RL. The less you're around someone, the harder it is to bond with them and yes, someone that's "local" is probably gonna catch both his and your's eyes. Sorry.... One guy I saw, I tried to keep it going before he deployed and he ended it. Looking back I could see where he was coming from - I mean, when you're deployed, the stress of knowing whether or not your SO is cheating and/or missing them is distracting you from your mission and you can end up killed. But, the way he ended it before he deployed put a bad taste in my mouth. He tried looking me up after he got out and I was so hurt that I didn't trust him and didn't reconcile with him. No...like I said in my first post, it's actually none of my business. I am just curious...he has been single since he came back from oversea more than one and half year ago. I was wondering if he likes me... This person is not in a military, so no, he is not gonna get killed. I know I have to stop wondering. sigh...I probably just have too much 'time' on my hand. This person just too fascinating. I can't help it. Edited June 29, 2015 by loveflower
Gloria25 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 No...like I said in my first post, it's actually none of my business. I am just curious...he has been single since he came back from oversea more than one and half year ago. I was wondering if he likes me... This person is not in a military, so no, he is not gonna get killed. I know I have to stop wondering. sigh...I probably just have too much 'time' on my hand. This person just too fascinating. I can't help it. Well, maybe he's like me... From my tweens, my priority was always "me"...My career, education, and life (ie family, volunteering, friends) were my priorities. The only time I made time for a man is when I needed some sex and/or a bit of companionship - and quite frankly, my needs have not changed. Eh, problem is, hard to find consistent now-and-then "company" to meet my needs I guess this is a case of the "challenge" here? I was listening to my fav podcaster and she was discussing how some women thrive on drama and the "challenge" that some men bring. Guys who aren't a "challenge" don't intrigue women.
Gloria25 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Did he watch the movie: the Thing (1982), before taking the job? Probably porn & lots of it. I hated that movie cuz of she shape-shifting alien. I hate things that freakin' morph and are slimy like that. I think I saw the remake, I can't remember (getting old I guess...) If I watch movies like that, Alien, and all that I gotta be careful I don't puke. Slimy things make me wanna hurl - like slugs. I was in the woods once in the Army...I saw a deer and was like "whatever", I saw a snake, and was like "eh, whatever" and gosh darn, when I saw a big o'l slimy slug I started hurling!!!
whichwayisup Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 It's actually none of my business...but.... this guy which I am fascinated about since the very beginning of last year went to work in a place that only has a few thousand people. One of those coldest and most remote place on earth. I am wondering what is a single guy in his prime year gonna to do in such place? find a girlfriend? (most likely will be different race then), abstinent? fooling around? Has nothing to do with meeting someone since he is single, it has to do with life experience and doing a job in a small remote place with a few thousand people. He wants to help, to make a difference. He's single and available to up and change his life, has no ties or responsibilities to anybody so now IS a good time for him to do this.
whichwayisup Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 No...like I said in my first post, it's actually none of my business. I am just curious...he has been single since he came back from oversea more than one and half year ago. I was wondering if he likes me... This person is not in a military, so no, he is not gonna get killed. I know I have to stop wondering. sigh...I probably just have too much 'time' on my hand. This person just too fascinating. I can't help it. Does he know you like him?
Author loveflower Posted July 2, 2015 Author Posted July 2, 2015 Does he know you like him? NO:( is it weird that you can't stop thinking someone that you have only really talked to once? and seemed a few times at events?
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