Clarkwg Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 So to summarise, 6 months ago my dysfunctional relationship ended, she then got with a new bloke which left me devastated. She has been with him ever since but the relationship with him has become very on/off already just like mine was with her for nearly a decade. She has bpd traits as well as a bad drug addiction so this is the sort of girl I should be running a mile from & I did, I blocked all contact as much as I could (but couldn't do full on NC as I have a daughter with her). Now a few weeks ago I unblocked her as part of a txt conversation I needed to have with her, she was surprisingly reasonable with me & I was cool with my feelings at this point so thought there was no need to re block her number but since then she has been In touch quite a few times, not about anything significant or wanting to be with me or anything of that nature but general chit chat about what she has been up to & telling me about faults in her relationship etc. Iv also spent a bit of time with her this week which I liked but I know it's all not a good idea. She has this other fella on the go who she is in a relationship with right now but even if she wasn't I know I don't need a girl like that in my life but I'm terrified if ever it came to a decision, my heart would over rule my head. The best thing that could happen is she be happy with the new bloke forever then that's that, there would not ever be a chance of us being together again but I know within a week she will be having troubles with him again & wanting to ring/text/see me. I know all the answers to this situation but I can't help feel I really enjoy being in her company. She could not have a normal relationship with me, him or any other man as she has issues but I'm missing her & her company at the moment. Please talk some sense in to me.
Grumpybutfun Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 If you were talking to your child who has grown into an adult and is thinking about going back into a relationship like this...what would want you want for them? Now, apply that to yourself because you need some perspective on how to love and value yourself, and it isn't by wasting one more day with someone who is so obviously toxic for you. Good luck, Grumps
casey.lives Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 relationships are strange things. do what you want
tobrieornottobrie Posted July 7, 2015 Posted July 7, 2015 That's really tough, I'm sorry you're hurting right now. Are you doing anything to take care of yourself right now, friend? Do you have any hobbies that you really enjoy that you can focus on? Do you enjoy exercising, do you have a favorite novel you could re-read? Just some ideas, I hope that things have gotten better for you. My thoughts are with you. the brie's cheese knees
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