Sonic55 Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 Hi all, here is the deal. I met this girl that works at my doctors office, always when she openes the door she has this big smile. And oh my god its beautiful. So after several times at the doc i asked her out, and her reaction tell me that she likes me. She looked shy and giggled. And she told me i can call her anytime i want. And she told me that in a week she will be going on vacation, so i called her after 2 days to ask her out but she said she has a lot of packing/moving in apartment bla bla. So ok i understand that. After about 2 weeks she came back from her holiday and after about a week from that i messaged her on viber, but she didnt reply. I saw that she read the message. So after about 1 hour i called her to ask her out again, and casually said: "that was me that messaged you on viber". And she said, i know. wtf then why dont you reply ofc i didnt asked that so we talked for about 10 sec and she said she cannot hear me and hang up the phone. So i tried calling her again but she rejected my call. After that i didnt try to call her again. As you can see i dont have any experience with dating and girls and stull. So what do you think, i mean i think she likes me but she is shy...i really dont know what to do. i think im gonna call her again for the last time someday this week and if she comes out with some kind of excuse again thats it im giving up....it will be awkward as **** cause she works at my docs office so im gonna have to see her every month....
kenmore Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 First of all, welcome! She is not into you IMO. You tossed her the ball a few times and she dropped it each time. I recently had a similar experience when I asked a woman I have a business relationship with if I could call her and ask her out. She said yes, but looking back it was probably because she would have felt awkward just saying no. Instead, she ended up ignoring me, made up excuses and never did say she wasn't interested...in words. The best thing for you and her now is not to make it any more awkward. As you say, you have to see her every month. Just let it go and seeing her will be OK. Act like it was no big deal and soon that awkwardness will fade. If you push it and she has to ask you to leave her alone, then it will be real bad! If as you say she is really interested, she will let you know. Just don't look for signs when you are at your Dr's office like her smiling or acting flirty. I mean real signs like she texts you or takes an offensive a bit. Otherwise, look elsewhere. Good luck! Ken 1
cessna Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 Other people will reply to you on here and tell you that you came across as needy. I don't think you did, I do think she came across as rude and immature though. She probably isn't interested in you. Why she accepted a date and gave you her number beats me. I've had many girls give me their number only for them to vanish into thin air a few days or weeks later. Would you really want to go out with a girl that behaves this way? I definitely wouldn't.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 Women are strange man. Half the time they'll give out their number and even respond to texts, etc despite the fact that they're not interested. The best thing you can do is take things at face value and judge a woman based on her actions. If she doesn't respond to a text, return a voice mail, etc then she's simply not interested. Awhile back, this one woman gave me her number. I sent her a text so she had mine. She responded back right away. So I say "I'll call u tmrw. When's a good time?" Never did get a response back. So I just walked away. Now would it have made more sense for her not to give her number in the first place, or at the very least, not respond to my first text? Sure. But as I said, women are strange.
Satu Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 I don't think you came over as needy, but I don't think she's very interested in you. Just leave it as it is, for now.
casey.lives Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 being a client makes it a very uncomfortable situation for her too.. I imagine 1
mortensorchid Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 Guy, this reminds me of something that happened years ago... I was talking to a male friend of mine and he said the weekend before he had gone out with this girl. I said that was nice. He said "Yeah I really like her, but everytime I see her places, like in the dining hall and things, she screams and runs away. What do you think that means?" I said to him "You really don't need ME to tell you what that means, do you?" Same situation. Don't sit here and analyze why or why not, the answer here is that she isn't interested in you. Move on.
preraph Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 The way she handled it sucked and wasn't very nice. But you know where she works and you put her on the spot at work. She is paid to smile and be nice to people at her employment, so you cannot go by that. I have no idea why you want to think she's shy. She's greeting everyone with a big smile as they walk in. She didn't giggle because she's shy. She giggled because you asking her out at work is highly irregular and kind of embarrassing. She just put you off and didn't say "no" at work. Many women have a hard time saying no, and that's a bad thing, but it's true. They'd rather just agree to your face and then avoid you later. And that's exactly what she did. She is not interested at all. 1
Author Sonic55 Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 Ugh im so stupid! ofc she doesnt like me.... I always like girls that dont like me.. FUI im 24 and i have never kissed a girl, never went on a date etc. ....im gonna stay single all my life thats it.
TaraMaiden2 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Ugh im so stupid! ofc she doesnt like me.... I always like girls that dont like me.. FUI im 24 and i have never kissed a girl, never went on a date etc. ....im gonna stay single all my life thats it. Ok, if you say so.... But that's up to you.
loveweary11 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 Ugh im so stupid! ofc she doesnt like me.... I always like girls that dont like me.. FUI im 24 and i have never kissed a girl, never went on a date etc. ....im gonna stay single all my life thats it. Minor setback. If you're at the level of asking random girls out in real life, you have the confidence to get one. It'll happen soon. There are a lot of girls to sort through to find a 2 way match. Brush it off and keep going.
Guitarisgood Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 1) One can never understand girls 2) Chin-up, you'll be right! 3) Swallow your pride and move on. Rejection is everywhere in life - from your work to losing a game. It's how you pick yourself up and the lessons you learn. So what did you learn? -A number and agreement means nothing not until she is sitting next to you at a restaurant and you're enjoying each others company -One does not chase woman - 1 call, one message and 1 date asked other wise move one because there are PLENTY of fish in the sea - Don't date or ask out anyone of whom you are in a professional relationship with - don't mix work and play I understand your pain buddy but I was like you. Start reading up on how to live life to the fullest; to not focus on woman and I garantee when you stop looking, you find.
Author Sonic55 Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 Minor setback. If you're at the level of asking random girls out in real life, you have the confidence to get one. It'll happen soon. There are a lot of girls to sort through to find a 2 way match. Brush it off and keep going. Actually this was the first one ever to ask out. i dont have confidence at all, and after this its lower than ever...wow this hurts i really thought that she was the one.
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