Author udelgirl Posted May 1, 2005 Author Posted May 1, 2005 Wow I was too embarrassed to ask this but looks like there are other posts like mine out there!! Ok, so I signed up for this matrimonial website in *hopes* of finding someone out there serious to date. So, I find this nice looking guy who turns out to sound nice and pleasant in his profile, and I poke him (it's a way of showing you're interested in that person, but not communicating with them). He pokes me back, showing that he's interested too. OK Now either HE pays or I pay some money to get access to their e-mail address. It's been a while since he last poked me and he still hasn't paid the money. Does it sound like he thinks (a) it's not worth it, (b) he's waiting for me to pay the money because he's either too cheap or lazy . I *would* pay for it, but I just don't want to look desperate considering I was the one who contacted him first!!
RecordProducer Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 Originally posted by udelgirl Does it sound like he thinks (a) it's not worth it, (b) he's waiting for me to pay the money because he's either too cheap or lazy . I *would* pay for it, but I just don't want to look desperate All of it! If you subscribe to the site, don't contact him anymore anyway. If he is not willing to pay 30 bucks to meet you then he's not worth it, meaning his personality sux! But he might as well pay for it eventually and contact you, but how will you know that he subscribed only for you?
Author udelgirl Posted May 1, 2005 Author Posted May 1, 2005 So you all don't think it's that awkward to shell out 30 bucks on someone whose profile and pic you've only read? Is this really a lazy bum kind of attitude this guy is taking, or is it just a normal response I mean, he *did* poke me back, but... then is it my call, my move?
jen03 Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 it's very possible HE is waiting to see if YOU are serious enough now to pay the $30!
HoldOn Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 Whatever. a mouse click doesn't indicate anything. Make him work for it! I mean, you already poked him first, so he knows you are interested. Men want to pursue. If they don't do it, there's a reason.
babybear Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 I guess if you really want to get to know this guy, you're gonna have to pay up! If you wait for him...he might never do it...and then all hopes would be gone. I don't think it's that he's cheap necessarily, maybe he doesn't want to appear desparate. Worth a shot. Babybear
tokyo Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 How about poking your email address in Morse? Is it a lot of money that you have to pay?
soccorsilly Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 Does anyone else see some himor in a MATRIMONIAL website matching people by POKING them? I mean I have not been poked in a while!
jen03 Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 oh my god that is such a stereotype. some guys can be shy!
CurlyIam Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 Other guys want the milk and not pay for the cow. Go with your insinct. If he sounds sure of himself and has "girls" in his hobbies, don't. If he strikes you more like a shy guy, do it. I vote against it, but then I've never been on a dating site. Curly P.S. I don't get it. Have girls become such an accessible good that guys aren't even up to paying 30 bucks when they're on a paying dateline site? where is this world going to ?!?
Author udelgirl Posted May 1, 2005 Author Posted May 1, 2005 Hey everybody! Thanks for your opinions. I think I might wait a little bit longer (it's been three days since he last "poked" me back hehe) before I consider dishing out the 30 bucks... I mean, it is a lot of money, either for a guy or girl to pay. And he does look reasonably attractive so maybe his reasoning is, "ok, this girl looks nice but I can find others and not have to pay 30 dollars". In his profile he says he is "simple, affectionate and dedicated, mail me if you're interested" and that's it... he looks very down to earth. Hm.... any more opinions?
60sdreamgirl Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 girl, three days is nothin!! he's probly takin his time relaxing this weekend. what, u want a desperate guy? lol. wait like a week or so, then shoot out the money if you are truly still interested! yep he seems pretty chill from what u said. too chill can imply not much initiative tho LOL so theres another hint on why he aint payin up yet.
RoseyLife Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 hello udelgirl. funny how we are in teh same boat here. however i have been waiting a lot longer than you and well i have decided to pay the fee to get his email address. i am tired of being the girl who waits for the guy. assuming he has a life i could very well miss my opportunity here. especially as he is in the workplace and has exposure to other girls. many guys do not think that deeply as in oh i will miss my chance with this girl if i do not contact her now. if he is laid back as you say he will probably take what comes to him in life. not necessarily a bad thing if you like relaxed people. that is just my two cents.
600 RAMS Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 YOU poked him first so its YOUR move next its like a tennis game Ok? dont matter if its a guy or girl You poked, he poked back, now u pay to email him and hope he emails you back
HoldOn Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 some guys can be shy! Even the most shy guy in the world would ask a girl out if he liked her enough. And that's not too much to ask... for a guy who likes you "enough" to ask you out. i am tired of being the girl who waits for the guy. When you are patient, you get the best reward. When you wait for a guy that is crazy for YOU, then you get a great relationship and you never have to wonder about how he feels for you.
600 RAMS Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 good point HoldOn but i am a guy and this isnt always the case theres only so much i can tell about a girl from a dating website, more communication needs to be established like through Emails .if a girl Pokes me and i do the same back its up to her to make the next move
CurlyIam Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 Originally posted by 600 RAMS YOU poked him first so its YOUR move next its like a tennis game Ok? dont matter if its a guy or girl You poked, he poked back, now u pay to email him and hope he emails you back That's a man's reasoning, !
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