SJ69 Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 (edited) My girlfriend and I have been together for about 8 months. We're two college students who attend the same school but live about and 1 and a 1/2 hours from each other. The relationship started off rocky with her talking to multiple guys and being belligerent drunk at a party and becoming overly friendly. I'm pretty relaxed when I'm not drinking, not too social but she's very social so we're a bit opposite in that department. However, I've had my mistakes too. Hers account for what I noted above, commenting on people's social media pictures that are friends leaving attractive emojis, talking about having sex to her bestfriend, etc. I let this go. I don't believe she has physically done anything but the thought always lingers. For me, I have kissed another women months ago, texted them, acted fairly single at parties, etc. Her most recent mishap was yesterday with the social media comment, mine was about 3 months ago. I solely want her but I do not believe she solely wants me. I guess you can call me fairly insecure. We sometimes put our hands on each other in front of friends in public and comments have been made to us. Sometimes I don't know if I'm the one wrong, if she is, or if I'm making up problems in my head. I constantly have to check her phone because I don't trust her at all. She thinks of only herself most of the time and I get frustrated with it. She makes comments in anger that she feels constantly put down and annoyed with the constant arguing. However, we truly love each other we just have no clue on how to get it right at all. Every time we think about being done I get upset and she begins to cry and beg for it not go end. I really need some advice, an answer on how to get it right or simply what to do. Edited June 28, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator added paragraphs
Satu Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 When you say you love each other, what do you mean? What does the word, 'love,' mean to you?
phineas Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 What a fricken train wreck. If you don't dump this woman then you deserve the ending that will not be well. It is coming. Not a single thing you said sounds even remotely healthy about having this woman in your life. So much drama for someone you've been with less than a yr. 1
Gary S Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 Unfortunately, it sounds pretty typical for college students. The big problem is, some women under 27 often are just not ready to fall in love, that's where the term puppy love comes from. Their brains/capacity to love does not mature until they are 26-27. The Spacebook and text talk is just that though, talk - think about it.... reality is, nothing seriously is going to happen there, she can't kiss somebody... that app has not come out yet Talk is cheap - be the bigger man and have some confidence, let that slide. Don't take a woman too seriously until she takes you seriously.... and until they are over 27! 1
Tuutuu22 Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 Why would you "soley" want someone when you feel they don't feel the same. It's a crappy feeling and not worth any of the good times you did or do have with her. Listen I know its hard to end things but it's worse being young and being with someone you don't trust and constantly have to worry about. You're stuck in a toxic relationship, get out. 1
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