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we ended things because he fked me over and basically cheated on me- i was stupid and still wanted to be with him although he said he did not want to so i finally got the hint after a couple months of dealing w/ his BS (i.e.: that time he asked if he could move into my apartment 4 months later and share my bed but be "friends" and it we wouldn't be sleeping with each other). But every time i run into him at a bar or club he's always just staying around my area and glancing at me the whole night.

 

I don't know why he doesn't go off and do his own thing. I saw him yesterday at the club after a good 2 months and we ended on bad terms so after some contemplation he thought he found a "good time" to say hi to me (since he wishes to be friends, and i want nothing to do with him) After that, i did my own thing but he kept staring and seeing what I'm doing. Even strangers and my friends were telling me how he was eyeing me the whole night. I just don't get it. I know i'm over thinking but I just will always have some sort of feelings for him since he was my first love, but whats with his actions. The vibe i get from him just screams he wants to try again but somethings holding him back

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Probably a case of him not wanting you but not wanting anyone else to have you either.

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we ended things because he fked me over and basically cheated on me- i was stupid and still wanted to be with him although he said he did not want to so i finally got the hint after a couple months of dealing w/ his BS (i.e.: that time he asked if he could move into my apartment 4 months later and share my bed but be "friends" and it we wouldn't be sleeping with each other). But every time i run into him at a bar or club he's always just staying around my area and glancing at me the whole night.

 

I don't know why he doesn't go off and do his own thing. I saw him yesterday at the club after a good 2 months and we ended on bad terms so after some contemplation he thought he found a "good time" to say hi to me (since he wishes to be friends, and i want nothing to do with him) After that, i did my own thing but he kept staring and seeing what I'm doing. Even strangers and my friends were telling me how he was eyeing me the whole night. I just don't get it. I know i'm over thinking but I just will always have some sort of feelings for him since he was my first love, but whats with his actions. The vibe i get from him just screams he wants to try again but somethings holding him back

 

Jimmy is right. He has no interest in getting back with you, at least romantically (he'd probably consider an FWB) but that doesn't mean he wants you to be with someone else. He likes that you are still stuck on him -- that's a huge ego boost. That's all this is.

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He is only playing a game. If he wants to work on the relationship he can talk to you. Staring at you is a way to have some reaction from you , it would be a smile or irritation to boost his ego. Believe me he does not have any good intentions for you. Just ignore him.

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Probably a case of him not wanting you but not wanting anyone else to have you either.

 

yep he's extremely selfish so he'd definitely pull that one.

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Jimmy is right. He has no interest in getting back with you, at least romantically (he'd probably consider an FWB) but that doesn't mean he wants you to be with someone else. He likes that you are still stuck on him -- that's a huge ego boost. That's all this is.

 

lol i don't think he would even FWB when he stayed over my place a couple months ago when he needed a place to stay i asked if he wanted to sleep w/ me but he said "we can't.... like thats gonna make it so complicated for us.." but he would cuddle me all night and want my affection that way (roles reversed lol). But does it come off that I'm still stuck on him to him?? i don't look at anything of his social media, i avoid him when i see him but i'm always having a great time so he just sees that cz he's always staring at me, i haven't contacted him since we last spoke. I just hate how he just gets to have any sort of satisfaction with me.

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He is only playing a game. If he wants to work on the relationship he can talk to you. Staring at you is a way to have some reaction from you , it would be a smile or irritation to boost his ego. Believe me he does not have any good intentions for you. Just ignore him.

 

yeah everyone says he won't do anything but bad for me- he lost prob the best girl he had in his life so jokes on him.

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lol i don't think he would even FWB when he stayed over my place a couple months ago when he needed a place to stay i asked if he wanted to sleep w/ me but he said "we can't.... like thats gonna make it so complicated for us.." but he would cuddle me all night and want my affection that way (roles reversed lol). But does it come off that I'm still stuck on him to him?? i don't look at anything of his social media, i avoid him when i see him but i'm always having a great time so he just sees that cz he's always staring at me, i haven't contacted him since we last spoke. I just hate how he just gets to have any sort of satisfaction with me.

 

Pretty much everything you do he's going to link toward you being stuck on him still. If you're having a great time in front of him, he's going to think that you're putting on a show to pretend like you're over him. If you look sad it's because you're mourning.

 

What you need to do is avoid him. Stop hanging out where he hangs out. If you see him out, go somewhere else. Do this until you don't care if he's there or not and you don't notice what he's doing.

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it's a game. he's bored with his life and needs external stimuli. NOT WORTH IT

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