ThisisIt606 Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 I've been dating this guy for a month now and we met off tinder. We've been on about 7 dates and he's paid for the majority (all but 1) of them. I've offered to pay in the beginning but he's always refused, so I stopped offering. However I always thank him after he pays, that hasn't changed. The time I paid was for an outdoor activity and I needed to pay his guest pass (he offered to pay half for his guest pass but I said no, it's fine) I also invited him over and made dinner. He thanked me for cooking and said it was very good. Anyways, we have been intimate and had 1 sleep over his place and 2 mine. Our last date was drinks/tapas and a fun activity after work. I invited him to my place after as I knew he'd be away that weekend with a group of college friends at a beach house. He asked if I had plans and I told him what I was seeing a show Friday night and a friend's bday party sunday. He asked a few questions about the bday party. He slept over Thursday/Friday and walked with me to work Friday as it was on his way. When we parted he gave me a kiss and said "see you later." I texted him when i got into work Friday AM something funny that I noticed when I got in. We talked for a bit and said he had a nice morning with me/great way to start off his day. (we were intimate both that night and in the AM before work) I told him to enjoy his weekend and he told me to enjoy mine specifying the activity I told him I was going to do. Anyways should I text him tomorrow while he's away? (he also comes back sometime tomorrow but idk when) Text him something along the lines of "Hope you're enjoying the beach house . [show i went too] was awesome! Really enjoyed it. " Maybe also send him a pic of me at the show. ( it was a fun/funny pic) I'm asking this question because one of my ex's expressed to me ( as he was breaking up with me) he was a bit disappointed that I never initated texts while he was away on the weekends ( i didn't want to appear clingy) but he would always text me and i'd reply when he was away. I just don't want to make this same mistake with my current guy, bc I really like him. I want him to know that I'm still thinking about him/interested while he's away. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 One pithy text along the lines of Hope you're having fun would be fine. Multi texts if he's not responding will make you look like a Cling-on 1
casey.lives Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 no don't text. you already said everything. when they return, ask how was your weekend, and have more to talk about.
Author ThisisIt606 Posted June 28, 2015 Author Posted June 28, 2015 no don't text. you already said everything. when they return, ask how was your weekend, and have more to talk about. Just to clarify in my post, I didn't actually send anything yet about asking him how his weekend is going or about the show I saw. I know he's coming back tomorrow, but I just don't know when (afternoon or night)
Lansing Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 Nah, I wouldn't text him.... Remember, they are two different guys so what might have annoyed an ex might be something like a new BF enjoys about you. Let him enjoy his weekend and give him time to miss you. Down the road, when you guys have been dating for a year and you feel like checking in sure.. I found it interested for your question that you posted your sexual history with the guy. How many times you had sex, what time of day, location, etc. I know this forum is about asking questions and getting feedback but from the tone of your message it seems like you are more worried/anxious about things than you should be. Maybe I am reading it wrong but I would just relax. Having said all of that, do what you want to do . If you WANT to send him the funny pic, then do it. If you want to be with this guy long term you shouldn't have to second guess ever decision you are about to make.
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