darkmoon Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 i can understand why you are avoiding sex, but in a way, you ask a lot if you hope a guy will join you in your avoiding, you can not demand this, maybe try a church as the ppl will be more like you
Arieswoman Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 (edited) OP, this guy is so far up his own @r$e he can't see daylight, Before he met me he was sleeping with some chick ( we actually ran into the chick on our second date). I later on saw old butt graphic messages on his phone ( he showed me in a bid to assure me that she was the one pursuing things not him) he thinks he's all that and a bag of chips, so let him go find some silly girl who will give him what he wants. He thinks he's really smart, but you're smarter - right? No, do not contact him. He isn't exclusive with you, so whatever you do don't sleep with him. If he contacts you, ask him when he's taking you out to dinner, seeing as he thinks your so beautiful, surely he wants to show you off? See what he says ! I don't see him being relationship material, sorry. PS. No - you're not too sensitive, you're learning to pick out the red flags, well done ! Edited July 4, 2015 by Arieswoman 1
Author Sunshine2016 Posted July 4, 2015 Author Posted July 4, 2015 @ Lois Griffin- yep! Exactly. We spent most of our time together hanging out. Usually at night... Another thing I found really weird about him was how frequently he changed hotels. He's originally from my country and (but he's also a citizen of USA and resides there as well). So he basically goes back and forth between these two countries. He's been staying in hotels but literally changes hotels every 2-3days. I asked him why he moves around so frequently and he says it's because he enjoys variety and likes to try new things out which doesn't really make sense if you're on a business trip and not vacationing. Who changes hotels every two nights? Made me began to wonder if he's up to dodgy stuff. 1
Arieswoman Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 Sunshine, Who changes hotels every two nights? Made me began to wonder if he's up to dodgy stuff. Hmmmm, I agree, sounds dodgy. The mind boggles - time for you to bail out, methinks....
Author Sunshine2016 Posted July 4, 2015 Author Posted July 4, 2015 i can understand why you are avoiding sex, but in a way, you ask a lot if you hope a guy will join you in your avoiding, you can not demand this, maybe try a church as the ppl will be more like you I'm avoiding sex with the wrong guys... I have no doubt that when I'm in a happy, committed relationship with the right person, I'd have no qualms about going all the way. I'd also hope that the right person would understand my reluctance to have sex outside of the confines of a committed relationship. I'm just trying to learn from my past experiences and the dating mistakes I made. 1
BluEyeL Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 Hope you completely dump(ed) him. He's not your future husband and he seems like not a nice person.
Arieswoman Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 sunshine2006, I'm avoiding sex with the wrong guys... I have no doubt that when I'm in a happy, committed relationship with the right person, I'd have no qualms about going all the way. I'd also hope that the right person would understand my reluctance to have sex outside of the confines of a committed relationship. I'm just trying to learn from my past experiences and the dating mistakes I made. ^^^^ this is sound common sense. When I was single and dating I said " no sex without monogamy" and was very glad I did. I had guys call me "frigid", "a prude", "too cool", "hung up", "unadventurous", stuck in the past", "unliberated", etc etc because I wouldn't get into sex stuff to oblige them. I learned to walk away from guys who weren't relationship material. Take your time, there's no rush ! 1
angel.eyes Posted July 4, 2015 Posted July 4, 2015 It's disappointing that things don't turn out the way you hope when you like someone. I'm glad though that you were finally able to see him for who he really is. Just so many signs that this one was only looking for something casual. Now you can look for someone who wants something more lasting. Good luck in your search! 1
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