aklost101 Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 has anyone on here ever cheated for, or kept cheating because the sex was different? i've been cheating on my SO for a few months now. at first i never meant to (cliche, i know) but now, even though i feel guilt ridden, i keep cheating for the variety in the sex. their styles are so different and both enjoyable... i was just wondering if anyone else has had this experience??
HoldOn Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 No... I like stability. But I can't help but ask, if you're looking for variety, why don't you break up with your SO. Then you can have all the sex you want with a variety of men, and you won't hurt anyone.
Author aklost101 Posted April 30, 2005 Author Posted April 30, 2005 i keep asking myself that... emotionally we're great (usually, anyway) and he's the person i want to stay with, but i really enjoy the sex with guy2.
HoldOn Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 well, it won't be so great emotionally when he finds out you've cheated. Why don't you let him go, it will be better for both of you.
wanting to heal Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 Quit having your cake and eating it too. You are going to wind up really hurting him. The guy2 has no character and it sound like you do not have much either. When is cheating for your pleasure an option. Are we just at a point in our lives that we want to feel good, no matter the costs to anyone else? If you want the sex, go get it. Just don't play both ends. If you really love your husband, you could be honest with him and go see a sex therapist. I was cheated on, and it is killing me. I have not left, but I think I am going to. Our relationship is getting better, but I cannot take it when she tells me that there is not really anything wrong. What else could I do, I ask. She says not much. That means that you have a need that your husband is not filling. When that need is sex, or exciting sex, you have gone outside the marriage for the only thing that was sacred to your marriage.
wanting to heal Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 I just realized it is not your husband, just a significant other. That means that it should be easier to chase greener pastures. Guy2 is loving this, he is doing another guy's woman. That is a rush to those a**h***s that create stereotypes for the rest of us men.
guest Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 I use to be that way when I was young and didn't want to be commetted to one person. If I wanted sex w/ a different guy I would tell the guy I was seeing it just wasn't working out and I didn't want to be tied down. If you and your SO agree to having sex w/ other ppl then I don't see a problem w/ that (as long as you use protection) but if your SO only wants you to be w/ them then you need to break it off.
Author aklost101 Posted May 1, 2005 Author Posted May 1, 2005 i never said that what i was doing was right, i know all that. i started this post to see if anyone else cheated or kept cheating b/c they enjoyed a different style during sex. that's all i wanted. flame me more if it makes you happy, but you're not going to make me stop. i reiterate: has anyone else started cheating, or continued to cheat b/c they enjoy the varied kinds of sex from the different partner?
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