JeffOlerud Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 Hi everybody. My girlfriend broke up with me in the end of April because she was no longer happy the way the relationship was going. Basically I wasn't doing the things she liked. I was not appreciating her. I was taking her for granted. We had NC for 5 weeks, after she start contacting me. But the first contact was not great. We had argument over the holiday what we should take together. It had to be cancelled, but I didn't do it over the fact maybe if we come back together then we can still go or if i found somebody els to go with. She wasn't happy to hear this. After a week i cancelled it, because it wasn't worth the fight for me. From that moment then we had a couple of text message every now and then how life was going, family and hobbies. We didn't talk about our past relationship or feelings. This happens for last 3 weeks. I started every conversation and ending it. Exactly a week ago I sended here a text message to let remember something of our relationship. She responds positive about it, and talk to each other for a while. After a hour i ended the conversation again, because I had to go. I ask here that i was currius about the concert were she did go to the next day. Because I started the last few contacts i was currius if she should start now. But no. This week was also here birthday so I send here a birhtday card just to be nice. I got a thank you message from here, that it was nice that I taught of here. I stayed this time neutral towards here and asked if she got any present already. But because i had a sport match I quite the conversation quick. I wished here a nice birthday evening and she wished me good luck. After the match i looked over on my phone and saw that she changed here picture in to a text message 'being alone is better than being with the wrong one'. During the NC period she unfriended me from fb but kept me phonenumber. I looked on whatsapp and it looked like it that she was still looking what I'm/was doing. I'm confussed now, is she showing signs of confusion here? Or did i blew my chance because it was here birthday and I didn't gave here the attention that she wanted? Do I need to reach out one more time and then go in NC again and let her go? What to do? Today is here party, but I don't go. I'm not invited, but if she will invite me I still don't go because i don't want to create awkward moments there. I still love her to death, and want to be together. But I know it have to come from both sides if you want it to work. I'm currious with you all think about it. What are my chances if i contact here now or go in NC?
Satu Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 'Being alone is better than being with the wrong one'. That statement tells you everything you need to know. NC is not a tool for getting someone to want you. It's a tool used to help you heal from a broken relationship. *No direct contact in either direction. No sending or receiving of messages. No replies. Block any means she might use to contact you. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. No monitoring of her on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying. Take care.
kasop Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 Im sorry buddy but you blew your chances long ago. Shes making means to move on as should you. NC for yourself.
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