bella2210 Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 I have not been in a relationship for a long time now. I met guys but they weren't my type and I get bored on a dates or I don't even like going on dates because it won't be interesting. I am busy with university and work, so I don't have much time to find someone and most guys have girlfriends in my university. Darn it!! lol. I don't want to meet guys on Facebook because I am a person who is into the old school love thing when a guy see you and fall in love with you. I know Im dreaming but this is who I am :roll eyes: I really don't know what to do or how to find THE ONE.
La.Primavera Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 Maybe it is time to focus on the social aspects of university life such as clubs and events. You are more likely to meet like-minded guys through these activities. Trust me there are plenty of decent single guys at university who are in the same boat as you are, too focused on study and work to meet anyone special. You never know, you might meet someone really great. 1
Author bella2210 Posted June 27, 2015 Author Posted June 27, 2015 Thank you for your reply La.Primavera! But I am more into a commitment relationship than being in a club or parties and meet guys who may only looking for fun and waste time. I want a decent man (rare) that really knows what he want. But as I said, I feel like I am the only one who is single in the university lol.
True Gent Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 I'm guessing you are fairly young, say early 20's? Just with you being at uni, I'm assuming you aren't a mature student? If you are just young and focusing on your studies right now, I wouldn't get too hung up on how long you've been out of a relationship. If you keep on focusing on doing well in your studies and look towards heading down your chosen path, you're bound to meet someone at some point when you least expect it. Keep doing whatever you like doing for fun as and when you can and don't put pressure on finding someone. It's a long twisty road of life ahead and there is plenty of time.
La.Primavera Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 I am more into a commitment relationship than being in a club or parties and meet guys who may only looking for fun and waste time. I think you misunderstood what I meant by clubs. I mean groups that get together to share interest in something like foreign films, dancing, volunteering, politics, history, sports clubs etc. I don't blame you for not wanting to meet your dream guy in a bar. Sorry I wasn't more specific the first time. Good luck.
Author bella2210 Posted June 27, 2015 Author Posted June 27, 2015 I'm guessing you are fairly young, say early 20's? Just with you being at uni, I'm assuming you aren't a mature student? If you are just young and focusing on your studies right now, I wouldn't get too hung up on how long you've been out of a relationship. If you keep on focusing on doing well in your studies and look towards heading down your chosen path, you're bound to meet someone at some point when you least expect it. Keep doing whatever you like doing for fun as and when you can and don't put pressure on finding someone. It's a long twisty road of life ahead and there is plenty of time. I am actually 24 so not sure if this is not "mature" yet but Im pretty sure Im mature enough to know what I want. And yes, I am doing well in my studies because I am studying to be a doctor which requires a lot of studying. I think time run fast so you want to do something in life that you won't regret not doing it when you are old.
Author bella2210 Posted June 27, 2015 Author Posted June 27, 2015 I think you misunderstood what I meant by clubs. I mean groups that get together to share interest in something like foreign films, dancing, volunteering, politics, history, sports clubs etc. I don't blame you for not wanting to meet your dream guy in a bar. Sorry I wasn't more specific the first time. Good luck. Oh yes, I do that thank you!
Teraskas Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 I'm somewhat in a similar situation, except I'm 23 and it has been 3,5 years here. :/ I finished university, so no point in looking there. My job is male dominated, and the ones that aren't male are either married / engaged / in a relationship. Due to my job it's far from easy to find someone. Contrary to others I'm a more than decent guy who knows what he wants from life, yet the women I do meet are all into the party scene and lacking interest in me. ^^
candie13 Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 well it all depends how you've spent those 4 years: did you just not date or did you simply meet all the wrong men and then nothing good ever came out of it. What is your issue, is it that you don't find interesting men, is it that you don't get asked out.... ? Based on the answer to these questions, you can adjust your behavior accordingly.
Author bella2210 Posted June 28, 2015 Author Posted June 28, 2015 I'm somewhat in a similar situation, except I'm 23 and it has been 3,5 years here. :/ I finished university, so no point in looking there. My job is male dominated, and the ones that aren't male are either married / engaged / in a relationship. Due to my job it's far from easy to find someone. Contrary to others I'm a more than decent guy who knows what he wants from life, yet the women I do meet are all into the party scene and lacking interest in me. ^^ My job is literally all women lol!! But you will find someone down the road! Good luck
Author bella2210 Posted June 28, 2015 Author Posted June 28, 2015 well it all depends how you've spent those 4 years: did you just not date or did you simply meet all the wrong men and then nothing good ever came out of it. What is your issue, is it that you don't find interesting men, is it that you don't get asked out.... ? Based on the answer to these questions, you can adjust your behavior accordingly. Well, I would go on a date but I don't feel any attraction toward them or I just don't feel interesting talking to them. I have been asked out a lot actually but I reject them. It just doesn't click you know what am I saying. I guess I should stop thinking about it too much and enjoy my life.
Targetlock Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 well before my recent relationship i was single 5 years, yeah i know its rough but best not to get too worried over it and concentrate on other things, things should fall into fall place and maybe its just a case of not meeting the right person yet 2
candie13 Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 Well, I would go on a date but I don't feel any attraction toward them or I just don't feel interesting talking to them. I have been asked out a lot actually but I reject them. It just doesn't click you know what am I saying. I guess I should stop thinking about it too much and enjoy my life. it doesn't work that way, I'm afraid. You need to understand what you want from a RS. Which qualities you like in a man which you don't. What are your dealbreakers. I find it had to believe that in 4 years you met no guy you fancied. IF you want help, you should provide all the details, unless you're here to simply vent
sportygirl89 Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 I think it's normal for a lot of people in our mid 20s to be single. I've been single for two years. I've gone out on dates and stuff. I personally do not think the guys our age are ready to settle down. I've gone out on 5 dates or so this year. But I've been recently talking to a guy who is 9 years older than me. Maybe try older guys? I've known this older guy most of my life though so I think it's different and depends on what you're willing to try. 1
Phoe Posted June 29, 2015 Posted June 29, 2015 I was single for 6 years, from 18-24. All of college and 2 years after. Dating in college is HARD. The hardest time I ever had of it. 1
Author bella2210 Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 it doesn't work that way, I'm afraid. You need to understand what you want from a RS. Which qualities you like in a man which you don't. What are your dealbreakers. I find it had to believe that in 4 years you met no guy you fancied. IF you want help, you should provide all the details, unless you're here to simply vent lol, if I tell you what qualities I want then you will tell me to go dream lol because thats what I do.
Author bella2210 Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 I was single for 6 years, from 18-24. All of college and 2 years after. Dating in college is HARD. The hardest time I ever had of it. Lol! it is hard especially when you have classes like chemistry or biochem and work. I am like how the hell would I find time for someone and that's not fair to them too. I have to find someone who is in the same major but my major has a lot of girls which is weird lol
Author bella2210 Posted June 29, 2015 Author Posted June 29, 2015 (edited) I think it's normal for a lot of people in our mid 20s to be single. I've been single for two years. I've gone out on dates and stuff. I personally do not think the guys our age are ready to settle down. I've gone out on 5 dates or so this year. But I've been recently talking to a guy who is 9 years older than me. Maybe try older guys? I've known this older guy most of my life though so I think it's different and depends on what you're willing to try. yes, it seems hard to find a decent man these days. I wish I lived in the 40s or 50s when love was so pure and you see most of them are still married. Isn't that cute? Edited June 29, 2015 by bella2210
Teraskas Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 I think it's normal for a lot of people in our mid 20s to be single. I've been single for two years. I've gone out on dates and stuff. I personally do not think the guys our age are ready to settle down. I've gone out on 5 dates or so this year. But I've been recently talking to a guy who is 9 years older than me. Maybe try older guys? I've known this older guy most of my life though so I think it's different and depends on what you're willing to try. Not every guy in their 20s is identical. Myself for instance, I have no issues with settling down at my current age. The most common excuse I ALWAYS get from women is that I'm "too young". Heck, even the ones my age reject me and go for those who are older. It's quite a generalisation, but then again I'm used to constantly running into "Ageist" women. I find it ironic that a lot of older dudes are given a chance, while others don't even make effort to get to know me. xD (Contrary to a lot of guys my age, I'm at the maturity level of someone in their 30s.) Older is not always the answer, as a friend of mine at age 23 with 2 kids experienced with a 30 year old who had the maturity of a rock.
Targetlock Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 ive been wanting to settle down for ages, but trying to catch a ladies eye is hard these days, in real life and in person. never seem to have managed the knack.
candie13 Posted June 30, 2015 Posted June 30, 2015 lol, if I tell you what qualities I want then you will tell me to go dream lol because thats what I do. absolutely not. Identify, make a list, and see what your dealbreakers are. Then, do a proper targeting - based on that. Once you rationalize your criteria, realistically, it's easier, because you know what to look for, when you meet a new person. If you simply say: "young, beautiful, rich, faithful and inlove with me" it won't work, haha. Realistic.
Author bella2210 Posted July 1, 2015 Author Posted July 1, 2015 ive been wanting to settle down for ages, but trying to catch a ladies eye is hard these days, in real life and in person. never seem to have managed the knack. hahaha! it seems hard these days for some reason but You will find a person one day. It will happen but I guess it takes time. GoodLuck!
Author bella2210 Posted July 1, 2015 Author Posted July 1, 2015 absolutely not. Identify, make a list, and see what your dealbreakers are. Then, do a proper targeting - based on that. Once you rationalize your criteria, realistically, it's easier, because you know what to look for, when you meet a new person. If you simply say: "young, beautiful, rich, faithful and inlove with me" it won't work, haha. Realistic. hahaha Darn it! well If I want to be "realistic" then I would say a respectful and faithful, good looking man but not too much beautiful because they may be unfaithful hahah. (My dream guy would be like Leonardo DiCaprio but the faithful version lol like in Titanic or Gatsby) No one judge me I can dream lol
True Gent Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 I am actually 24 so not sure if this is not "mature" yet but Im pretty sure Im mature enough to know what I want. And yes, I am doing well in my studies because I am studying to be a doctor which requires a lot of studying. I think time run fast so you want to do something in life that you won't regret not doing it when you are old. What I meant by a mature student was 30/40 yrs +. At 24 you have loads of time to find someone. Better to get the foundations for your life built up as a priority. Yes relationships are the icing on the cake, but like I said you've plenty time. 1
Arieswoman Posted July 2, 2015 Posted July 2, 2015 bella2210, please don't get all uptight about this. You say you're at uni, well this is the time to do all those things that you maybe won't have time to do later, when you are building a career. You can travel and visit far-flung places, have back-packing holidays with other students. When I was a student there was loads of stuff going on but I didn't take advantage of it all because I was frightened of flying. Don't be a scardy-cat like me and use these opportunities. Who knows who you might meet on the Manchu Picchu trail ?? 2
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