Author UntitledNotepad Posted June 28, 2015 Author Posted June 28, 2015 So why the **** did she suggest having a second date after summer if she lost interest and didn't want to keep in contact?
Gary S Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 Quote: Originally Posted by katiegrl View Post (1) She did not lead you on....she behaved the way she did and accepted the second date because AT THAT TIME... she *was* interested. The operative word being "was*. (1) Then why did she suggest having the second date when she got back if she wasn't interested? She could have just said "Sorry, my plane leaves tomorrow, I can't make it." but no, she said "But do you wanna do it when i get back?" - people will go on dates for reasons other than a relationship - in this case probably to pass the time. She probably has another boyfriend where she is going. Quote: Originally Posted by katiegrl View Post (2) If she were still interested, she would want to continue communicating with you while she is gone. (2) Really? If you just meet someone and go on (like you emphasized) just ONE date, would you really keep in contact for over 3 months? - sure, people get into long distance relationships all the time. Just date local girls who like you more and you'll eliminate those problems next time.
katiegrl Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 (edited) So why the **** did she suggest having a second date after summer if she lost interest and didn't want to keep in contact? Read the last paragraph of my last post...and would you please stop? No offense, but this is getting ridiculous. And no offense, but if how you are acting here is any indication of how you acted with her....I am not surprised she lost interest. Again, I know this is not what you want to hear...sorry. But you have two choices. 1. Continue obsessing and posting the same questions here until someone tells you what you want to hear...or 2. Accept that she has lost interest, start dating other chicks and move on. Your choice. Good luck! Edit: You will NEVER ever figure out what goes on in the minds and hearts of some chicks....so don't even try. Futile waste of energy. Go by her actions...and in this case they scream....no longer interested. Edited June 28, 2015 by katiegrl
Author UntitledNotepad Posted June 28, 2015 Author Posted June 28, 2015 Should I message her when she gets back "Hey howve you been?" Or should I just ignore her request for a date when she gets back?
katiegrl Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 (edited) Should I message her when she gets back "Hey howve you been?" Or should I just ignore her request for a date when she gets back? Sure, why not? Not right away though. Wait until she is back a few days. You don't want her thinking you were waiting around....obsessing about her all summer...do you? Just text something casual like "hey, welcome back...how was your summer?" Something friendly like that. No pressure, and don't mention the second date. At least not right off the bat. Feel it out...and be cool, no pressure. Let things happen naturally...if she wants that second date....she will let you know. If not with words, than by her actions. If she doesn't respond, let it be, do not text again. In the meantime, during the summer, get out and date other chicks so you are not obsessing about her.. And who knows, you may even meet another chick and forget all about her...anything can happen in three months. Again, good luck! Edited June 28, 2015 by katiegrl
ird Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 OP you need to stop obsessing. The girl doesn't sound interested and she could have agreed to the 2nd date for a multitude of reasons: -she just wants something to do -she wants to go out for free -she believes she can get out of the date by the time she gets back(which is highly likely to happen) -she does not want to hurt your feelings(let me emphasize on this more) Regarding her not wanting to say no, you seem like a very intense person. The way you act and talk and all this probably says to her that you're very interested to the point of being obsessed/clingy/needy. You might actually be scaring her off. Now, the thing about young women/girls is that if they're interested in someone they'll do anything in their power to contact that person. No matter what. They'll put everything down to contact this person they like. Find another girl who's interested in you. She's not perfect, God does not create people intending them to be perfect. If she was perfect for you then you two would be hitting it off and you wouldn't be on loveshack complaining about it. Go find your perfect, because this girl is not it. 1
Author UntitledNotepad Posted June 28, 2015 Author Posted June 28, 2015 Ok sounds good. So after waiting a week or so, and initiating a platonic conversation, then should I mention the date or should I keep it platonic and wait for her to mention it?
Author UntitledNotepad Posted June 28, 2015 Author Posted June 28, 2015 Should I defriend her on Facebook?
ird Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 Oh god this is hopeless. Just wait for her to contact you, if she does then it was meant to be. If she doesn't then she's found someone else and is not interested in you. Unfriending her on FB: if she even notices, she probably won't care or she'll think you're overreacting. if you can handle being FB friends and seeing all her pictures and statuses and potential boyfriends then go right ahead. But for your own mental sanity, from what I can tell, unfriend and block her so you can't see what she's up to.
katiegrl Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 No more questions.... there comes a point when a grown man needs to start figuring this stuff out for himself...that's how you learn and grow. Your questions have been answered. Now it's time do what your own gut and intuition tell you to do. Will you make mistakes, yes! Will you kick yourself for doing things which in retrospect you should not have done? Yes! But again, that is how you learn and grow! As a man, as a human being! It's all a risk....dating, relationships, love, it's all one big risk and there are never any guarantees. You cannot keep relying on others to hold your hand through every little thing... Follow your gut....and do what YOU think is best... it's time.
Author UntitledNotepad Posted June 28, 2015 Author Posted June 28, 2015 Ok, thanks everyone for all the help. 2
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