Tony427 Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 Okay here's the situation, I really like this girl that I work with. She started working there after I did and once we got to know each other we got along really well, we'd joke around and flirt and talk like it was no big deal but recently she's been acting different around me. She doesnt hardly say anything to me and she doesn't make eye contact but I do think I catch her looking in my direction often when I'm looking away. She acts normal around all the other guys at work except me. Now I want to know if she is acting shy because she likes me and doesn't know how to approach me now or if I did something to piss her off (I've wracked my brain and can't think of anything I may have done for her to be mad). I am now having trouble talking to her because of the change in attitude around me and I need a way to determine whether or not she is interested but it's really hard to talk to her when there are so many other people around and she acts so quiet. I thought about giving her a letter but wasn't sure if that seemed to cowardly as opposed to confronting her face-to-face. I'm freakin out here because I like her more than anyone I've ever liked before and don't want to miss an opportunity with such a great girl because i can't figure out what she's thinking. Any tips and help would be greatly appreciated, this has been plagueing me for over a month now and I can't take it any more.
HoldOn Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 I think that she's probably ignoring you becuase she likes you (90% sure). that's something I used to do when I was single. Before my bf asked me out I was so shy around him because I was scared. the solution to your problem is super easy. Why don't you just ask her out? Do you have an e-mail system or phone system in your office? You could e-mail her and tell her you think she's a great person and you'd like to get together and ASK FOR HER NUMBER. call her and ask her out. I know that sounds REALLY hard. But imagine how wonderful you'll feel when it's over. If she says yes, OMG!, you'll have a date with the girl of your dreams. If she says no, then at least you'll know what's going on and you won't have to worry about it any more. Also, when you ask her out, make sure you give her at least 2-3 days notice. Like, call her on Tuesday or Wednesday to ask for Friday or Saturday. That way she won't be already busy. Don't be a wimp! Go after what you want.... You like this girl so much? well, then prove it.
RecordProducer Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 Try something casual like write her a short cute email. Act as if nothing has changed. Approach her and start joking around. If she ignores you, ask her what's wrong. If she refuses to answer, insist a little bit. Ask her if you have done anything wrong. If she insists that you haven't then she probably likes you too and that's the reason why she acts weird. Ask her to go have a cup of coffee together after work.
justsomeguy Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 Well I agree you have to do something. You should ask her out. For some reason if this happened at work I would assume that the girl realized I liked her, but she didn't like me and she realized that she was flirting with me and needs to stop. That is pretty negative, and I wouldn't assume that for a second in your case. Assume the best and see what happens!
faux Posted May 1, 2005 Posted May 1, 2005 Tell her you want to talk with her about something, then do so out of the way of other people. Never put in writing what can be communicated through speech. Ask direct questions and you have a good chance of finding out what is going on.
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