pinkutube Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 hello everyone. i am so glad to find this forum. I am having a weird breakdown. I was with a woman for almost for years, we met at work. After the second year i was very indifferent about the relationship and did not care much about it. But being with her was something to do, and i think i liked her a little. she wanted me to move in with her and spend more time together and i kept putting it off. So almost two months ago she told me i need to fix my life and i was so happy to be free of her!! But then after three weeks, i started missing her, thinking about her being with other men, having fun with other people, etc etc and i started losing my mind. i cant sleep, eat, i cant stop thinking about her. i begged for another chance recently, but she said she does not feel the same way anymore. i even told her i will change and even move in with her but she said no... she said she does not see me in her life other than as a friend for the forseeable future... i cant stop emailing her and giving her gifts. but a part of me worries if she takes me back i will be miserable again... why do i want her back so bad???? is this normal??? why do i want someone back i hated to be with??
Clarence_Boddicker Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 "we don't know what we've got till it's gone." Hard lesson. Look back & figure out what was good & bad. Kinda sounds like you're not mature enough to be in a healthy relationship. 2
GorillaTheater Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 But then after three weeks, i started missing her, thinking about her being with other men, having fun with other people, etc etc and i started losing my mind. "I don't want her, but I don't want anyone else to want her either." It borders on the pathological but yeah, it's pretty common. But the bottom line is that you really don't want her. You both need to move on. 4
changeofseasons Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 Look at it this way: if she ever lets up and goes back to you, most likely you'll get annoyed again and it'll be full circle. Don't let your ego mess with you. 2
grokcahsevol Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 If you haven't done so already, I would stop the begging, the buying of gifts, and emailing her. You just come off as needy. Maybe you want her back, because you miss just being around her and you know it was comforting to have that? as changeofseasons said.. if you go back especially without any time apart.. you'll just get annoyed with her again. How long were you with her for? I wasn't sure when you said "for" if you meant "four" besides that, I know how you feel... even though I was the one that got dumped.. I want her back so badly.. but the only way I know if she wants me back is by giving her space, but I know I can't dwell on her otherwise I won't get anything out of it.. My mornings are pretty ****ty right now but throughout the days it's better, I can't eat either it sucks
aloneinaz Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 You want what you can't have. You figured you could end it and see how things were. She accepted it and moved on. Now, she doesn't want you and it bothers you because you're lonely and miss not necessarily her but the companionship of the relationship. Our instincts are rarely wrong. Leave the poor girl alone and find someone that rocks your world. She clearly didn't. 1
casey.lives Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 when anyone breaks up with someone they shared time with, there will always be that old familiar feeling.. you might be more hung up on the feeling and not the relationship or the girl. nostalgia is a wonderful feeling in itself, enjoy it for what it is. Let yourself miss and remember and dream of times gone... BUT if you didn't care to walk out the first time.. sadly, you'll most likely do it again.
erklat Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 i cant stop emailing her and giving her gifts. Dude reading this was if you stabbed me. Stop doing this asap. I did that and the only thing I regret now almost two years later is this. It's your ego. You don't actually want her as your incompatible. 1
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