Jackson37 Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 Is there any way to recover from this? I wouldn't say the date was bad. Met her on tinder and went to get coffee. I think we were both nervous, probably me more than her, and this led to me rambling at times a bit too much about random stuff/myself and also a few silences in the conversation... Other than that I think it went great when the convo was flowing well. It was a little weird saying goodbye too and she declined my offer to walk her to the car. We hugged and she said to text if I wanted to hang out another time, though I'm not sure she meant this. I texted after I got home just saying it was nice to meet her and stuff but I'm thinking she's just gonna ignore it and move on to be honest. I wish I could do it over again when I'm not as nervous, I haven't dated for a while so it was hard enough to get out there again. Any tips for the future? I'm bummed it didnt work out (she was super cute and I feel like we couldve connected more if it wasnt for the nervous barriers) but I'll keep trying and try to learn from this. Thanks guys
Gaeta Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 Offer her to do something else this weekend. If she declines you've lost nothing. There is no recipe, just be yourself. It doesn't matter that there were a couple of silences or you repeated yourself at time. When people click together none of that matters. I went on a first date with a man that had an anxiety attack in front of me. I already knew I liked him so it didn't matter.
Author Jackson37 Posted June 26, 2015 Author Posted June 26, 2015 Offer her to do something else this weekend. If she declines you've lost nothing. There is no recipe, just be yourself. It doesn't matter that there were a couple of silences or you repeated yourself at time. When people click together none of that matters. I went on a first date with a man that had an anxiety attack in front of me. I already knew I liked him so it didn't matter. I texted her already saying it was nice to meet her and apologized for leaving early (I had another commitment I told her about before the date so its not like I was making it up) but I said lets make up for it next time. Should I text again and make plans or just wait it out? I just feel like it would be weird to text two times in a row. Hopefully she is as understanding as you are haha
LostOnes05 Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 Wait until she replies. Don't come across as nervous or clingy thru text.
Author Jackson37 Posted June 27, 2015 Author Posted June 27, 2015 So guys if she doesn't reply should I just call it and move forward then?
Author Jackson37 Posted June 27, 2015 Author Posted June 27, 2015 Don't do anymore of those job interview-esque coffee dates. Take your next date out somewhere that has booze. A couple drinks and the nervousness will melt away. Just don't get stupid drunk and you are good. Thanks, that's a great idea I'll start doing that. So she never responded to my initial post date text but I never was straight forward with plans. Should I text her one more time perhaps later today asking if she wants to get drinks swim time? Or maybe to apologize for being nervous and then ask her out again? I'm more just dissapointed in myself, I feel like I should have performed better
Lois_Griffin Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 Her silence is your answer. Regardless of the CONTENT of your text that you sent telling her you had a good time, she chose NOT respond to it at all. If she were interested, she would have picked up the ball and answered you back. She didn't. Just consider this experience practice so that you're a little better at your next first meet.
Author Jackson37 Posted June 27, 2015 Author Posted June 27, 2015 UPDATE: got the text guys. All it said was that it was really nice to meet me too. But nothing else, just to complicate things. I think she's not interesting but what do you guys think? It's at least worth trying to set up another date right? I'll ask her out to drinks this time. I know I should probably just give it up but she's so pretty and I feel like if I had another chance we could connect.
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