ready2moveon26 Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 My daughter is 4 years old and weighs 67lbs. She is very tall for her age but is overall big. Her dad and I aren't together anymore and she means the world to both of us. He is VERY concerned about her weight and I am somewhat concerned. She is allergic to dogs and is on three allergy medicines. She has been tested for several problems such as thyroid problems with no problems. Her dad and I are overweight and have been since we were children. I was average until the fifth grade but he has always been on the overweight side. We have put her on low to no carb diets with one "free day" a week. It worked for a while, but as she gets taller her weight doesn't change. She is just a chubby little girl. She is very active and on nice days will stay outside for hours. We go for walks regularly and she is in ballet. Her doctor doesn't seem to be too concerned about her weight, but this is a BIG problem between her father and I. She knows what she is allowed to eat and what she isn't allowed to eat. She is hungry all the time or at least thinks she is. I monitor what she eats and he says he does too. I don't believe him and he doesn't believe me. This has really caused a problem. Does anyone have any suggestions on what we can do that will help her so she isn't teased the way he was when he was younger? I do not want my little girl to go through that. She is a very happy and active little girl and I want her to stay that way. I am open to ANY and ALL suggestions you can give me. I don't know what else to do!!!
faux Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 If her pediatrician is not concerned about her weight, don't you think it would be a good idea to find out why he isn't concerned? Maybe he can explain that this might actually be nothing to worry about. Did this pediatrician advise you to put a four year-old on a low carbohydrate diet? You should probably be talking to a nutritionist instead of a doctor when it comes to this sort of thing. Maybe you can just wait and see what happens as your daughter grows older. Definitely talk to the doctor again first.
SexKitten Posted April 30, 2005 Posted April 30, 2005 i don't know that a low-carb kind of diet is okay for such a young child. i'm with faux, consult another doctor and a nutritionist.
Author ready2moveon26 Posted May 1, 2005 Author Posted May 1, 2005 The doctor did recommend the no to low carb diet. My daughter doesn't drink pop unless it is diet and she doesn't eat anything with over 10g of sugar in it. When she has her "free day" she likes to go to McDonalds and have a chicken sandwich with lettuce and mayo and she doesn't eat the entire thing. When we go shopping for "healthy" food, she really enjoys herself. She likes a lot of vegetables but is getting sick of carrots. She does get two snacks a day because she doesn't eat much at meal times. Her snacks usually consist of raisins, an apple, carrots, grapes, and things like that. Every once in a while she gets Cheeto's which are her absolute favorite thing in the world. She likes rice cakes and is a meat eater. I limit her milk but when she does drink milk, its skim. I see and am somewhat concerned about her weight, but her dad is taking it to extremes. He gets her every other weekend and he claims (I didn't ask her about it) that every time he gets her, she's 5lbs heavier and he knows because he puts her on the scale. I don't want my daughter traumatized by this. He doesn't listen to me and "doesn't give a ***** what I think!" When I told him that the doctor isn't worried about it right now and that we should just keep doing what we are doing, he claimed that I let her eat whatever she wants whenever she wants. I do not do that! I monitor everything she eats. She has told me that her daddy lets her eat whatever she wants whenever she wants. She is 4 and I highly doubt she is smart enough to play the two of us. He doesn't realize what this could be doing to our 4 year old daughter. I don't want her to have a complex about her weight before she starts school. He claims that I put her in front of the tv and let her do what she wants, which is not true. I am afraid he is going to try and use this false information to use against me in court. I am a good mom and look out for my daughter. I don't know how to get into contact with a nutritionalist. Should I ask my doctor about it?
Chris777 Posted May 2, 2005 Posted May 2, 2005 My daughter is overweight (105 at 10 yrs old) I noticed something scary yesterday though, she wen't to spend the night with one of her friends, and they both gave me a goodbye hug as they left, well i noticed that her friend felt almost bony(anorexic) but i know it is not because she is being denyed or anything. she had just always ate fairly healthy, and is very active (tomboy) I honestly think the doctors are unconcerned, as they likely see so much of it that it no longer seems out of the ordinary. I am also at somewhat of a loss as to what to do to remedy the situation. We live with my parents, and around 5 years ago I tried a radical diet to try and help with a medical condition I had come down with, Well I lost 70 lbs. And Was reading all this junk about organic foods etc. Well I tried to put my daughter on the same diet, (or as close as i could a child) and her teacher finally writes me a letter telling me she doesnt eat what i packed her. Well my family was constantly against me for loosing the weight, I honestly don't know why other than I did loose it in like 10 months. But I finally gave up and ended up goiung back on "normal"(junk) food and gained most of the weight back. Funny thing is now my parents keep telling me i need to loose weight to try and help my condition. But It truely is a combination of diet and exercize that works, and then maintaining it. I am just so weak now I honestly have a hard time getting out of bed, so I'm not sure what to do. I was surprised at how my tyaste changed once i stopped eating and drinking sugars, but you can't seem to go back if you do that. Its tough to impossible in our media saturated world.
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