Mr Perfect, not so perfect

[ladydesigner]

I got emotionally invested in this woman. There was no physical contact, but much talk of it. Yes, you could say an EA, some have made suggestions of a RA, its a little late in the game for that. At the end of the day it wad fools gold. It was making me feel better about myself and for failing in this 25 year relationship.

 

DKT3 I'm sorry you fell down the same rabbit hole I once did. My RA was all for fool's gold too.

 

I hope you will learn and grow from this experience.

[Hope Shimmers]

but it seems like TO HIM it wasn't a big deal.

 

which would mean that he probably lied about the extent of his feelings for you. not even lied... as "played" into the role without actually FEELING those things.

 

OP - counseling & a professional. a forum like this won't help you.

 

Then he's a REALLY good liar.

 

And he knows better.

[Dutchman1]

Honestly I don't get how a man and woman believe they can be friends on a forum like this having gone through what you all have.

 

I think you need more than 100% into your marriage. What about some counseling?

 

 

My belief is that people can be friends in any situation, and most people only have one agenda, and that is to be a friend, nothing more or less.

 

 

Friendship and respect are both needed though.

 

 

Dutchman 1

[DKT3]

but it seems like TO HIM it wasn't a big deal.

 

which would mean that he probably lied about the extent of his feelings for you. not even lied... as "played" into the role without actually FEELING those things.

 

OP - counseling & a professional. a forum like this won't help you.

 

What I felt for Hope was very real to me at the time, I know that lovin will hate reading that, but ive told her that. Was it REAL? Clearly not if it was so easily turned off.

[Hope Shimmers]

What she says and what actually happened isnt the same. Yes there was PM's, but that was in response to what I was told. I dont know what she was told but what I said was true. I didnt lie to anyone about anything. It was the events as I saw them.

 

This thread isnt about a peep show, it was to discuss how I allowed myself to slide down this road and how im planning to move forward.

 

I have copies of PMs that you sent YESTERDAY with outright lies in them, things you know every well aren't true, and some which doesn't even match up to your first post here. Just STOP.

 

If you're planning to move forward, then just do it. Stop PMing people about me. Just move on and spend 100% of your effort on your relationship, since that's what you said you want. Is that too much to ask?

[Hope Shimmers]

What I felt for Hope was very real to me at the time, I know that lovin will hate reading that, but ive told her that. Was it REAL? Clearly not if it was so easily turned off.

 

Yep, that goes both ways.

[ladydesigner]

(((Hope Shimmers))) I'm so sorry you find yourself dealing with this. You are a wonderful member here at LS and I hope you still continue to be.

[William]

Since this is an anonymous forum, personal interaction between members is discouraged and we certainly don't condone discussing it publicly, hence I'll close this up and it appears Robert has already given some members vacations. In my opinion, folks got lucky. Robert is the good moderator around here.

 

Thread closed.