When co-workers single certain people out to ask a general question!

[Mapper71]

I've noticed this happening more often at my work, and not just to me but to several people. Like this morning a coworker of mine came into the room where I was sitting with another coworker and asked "Jenny, do you know where Steve's office is now that he's moved?" There's no reason she couldn't have addressed that to both of us, but singled her out. She wouldn't know anymore than I would. It makes me feel like I'm invisible.

 

Or another coworker will constantly single out one person and say "Dave, did you see on the news where they are raising tolls"? Why just single him out and not address all of us?

 

I just think it's an extremely rude thing to do. It's one thing if only that person would know or be interested, but that isn't the case.

[Trishern]

I find that others usually ask the person they find more approachable a question.

 

 

Quite often people come to my section at work and some colleagues, keep their heads down and they are the people no one asks for assistance. I tend to be aware of people looking for help and ask f they need anything, or I smile and they feel comfortable to ask a question.

 

 

Another thing is when people know you as a helpful person, they tell others and then everyone tends to ask for you by name.

 

 

Mrs. Trishern

[mrs rubble]

I agree with the above poster, although I'd like to add that some people are really good at giving instructions too...I have one workmate who is lovely, approachable, helpful and very knowledgeable but I rarely ask for her advice as she speaks so quickly that I have to keep questioning her to make sure I caught it all!!!!

[kenmore]

It could be that the woman talking to Jenny wants to hit on her. Maybe you need to count your lucky stars!

[kenmore]

Seriously though, I know what you mean. I have felt invisible a lot lately and it's not just that, it's when I send an email or text and it's ignored. Is that what we do now in society? Just ignore those we don't feel like talking to or if we have nothing to gain? Whatever happened to the human decency of responding to someone who asked you something?