imtrying211 Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 So this post was initially going to be on a slightly different topic until I received a message this morning from this guy I used to talk to. He and I met before my ex and I got together. We never went out but would spend hours at a time texting, chatting. He ended up getting into a relationship with someone he worked with, so our communication then stopped. This morning I had a message from him, just a basic "hey, how's things", to which I replied with similar casualness. No clue if this will go anywhere, but wanted to add it to the story. My issue is that I am still kind of hung up on my ex. It's been about 2.5 months since the split, and though I'm past the crying/depressed phase, I still miss him greatly, and have stupidly brought back the hope that we will get back together. He is back with the woman he was with before me, with whom he had an extremely toxic relationship due to her drinking and abusiveness. Even though we agreed we couldn't be "friends" due to his current relationship, he and I talk quite often at work now, and are in a good place. He will see me outside and approach me, then we'll spend like an hour just chatting about life, work, etc. We don't discuss his relationship or ours. When we had our first encounter like this post BU it left me feeling upset, but since then I've been OK with talking to him. It's like old times, and I enjoy still having him in my life. I'm probably holding on more than I should, but it's so difficult to let go when I still see him regularly. I want to have a conversation with him to see where his head is at as far as "us", but I'm afraid it will mess up the way things are between us now, just being work friends. I feel like we had a good relationship, we didn't fight, laughed a lot, but things just got a little boring, and I think that's a big part of why he left. I don't think our issues are unfixable, but I don't know at this point if he has any intentions of trying to get back what we had. And now with this other guy as a possibility I feel like I need to get that last confirmation from my ex that there's no turning back, and I should move forward. Do I bother questioning him, or just leave it alone? Advice/suggestions......
La.Primavera Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 If these feelings for your ex are stopping you from moving on and meeting someone else then you should talk to him and finalize things one way or the other. If you don't get the response you want then for your own sake move on and find some happiness for yourself.
casey.lives Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 he's with someone. move on. closure is something you give yourself
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