Trying to sort this out!

[Lost1010]

Okay, this is literally my first time ever posting in an online forum, but I'm just completely baffled and didn't know where to go for this so....if you have any insight or helpful advice, it would be much appreciated! I apologize in advance for the length of this...

 

I met a guy at a music festival last weekend. His friends teased him about being a "player" in general, and I definitely got that vibe from him just in the way he carried himself. One of his friends, in an attempt to maybe protect me, told me that he usually sleeps with girls right away and only once and done. But I kept an open mind and talked to the guy and we really hit it off. We flirted lightly the whole weekend, and he always found ways to find me at the festival and we spent every evening together walking around, but always with at least one other person with us.

 

To my surprise, though he seemed very interested, he didn't make any moves other than to hold my hand a few times when we were in a crowded area (and at one point he said "I'm going to make sure I don't lose you!") We hugged goodbye at the end of the festival and he said (in front of a big group of friends) that we should get a drink sometime (we discovered that we're from the same city). And he invited me to play softball with his recreational team a few days later.

 

So the day after we got home from the festival, he texted me to ask if I was coming to softball. I said I thought I could make it, and I did. We texted on and off every day until the game. Then, at the game, I met his friends that he played with and they were really cool but he kind of ignored me. He was very into it, and I sucked big time, so that was embarrassing, and I thought for sure I wouldn't hear from him again. He gave me a high five at the end of the game and said "Your phone will probably be ringing again soon!" And then he texted me that same night thanking me for coming out and said he owed me cocktails.

 

I'm totally confused by what's going on. He's SUPPOSEDLY a player whose only interest is sleeping with girls (which, honestly, would be fine with me. the guy is gorgeous and I'm not sure I'm looking for something serious) but he has yet to make any real moves. Yet he continues to try to spend time with me and acts very gentlemanly and almost protective of me. I'm not sure what to do. Is he shy? Should I make some sort of greater effort to hang out (like asking him out or something?) Or should I wait to see if he calls me to formalize plans for cocktails? Am I in the friendzone?

 

Sorry this is so long. I just thought maybe someone would have some sort of insight into what is going on here. Also let me know if you need any more information. Thanks!

 

Lost

[d0nnivain]

If you like his company spend time with him. Just be very cautious about trusting him with your heart.

[Redhead14]

Okay, this is literally my first time ever posting in an online forum, but I'm just completely baffled and didn't know where to go for this so....if you have any insight or helpful advice, it would be much appreciated! I apologize in advance for the length of this...

 

I met a guy at a music festival last weekend. His friends teased him about being a "player" in general, and I definitely got that vibe from him just in the way he carried himself. One of his friends, in an attempt to maybe protect me, told me that he usually sleeps with girls right away and only once and done. But I kept an open mind and talked to the guy and we really hit it off. We flirted lightly the whole weekend, and he always found ways to find me at the festival and we spent every evening together walking around, but always with at least one other person with us.

 

To my surprise, though he seemed very interested, he didn't make any moves other than to hold my hand a few times when we were in a crowded area (and at one point he said "I'm going to make sure I don't lose you!") We hugged goodbye at the end of the festival and he said (in front of a big group of friends) that we should get a drink sometime (we discovered that we're from the same city). And he invited me to play softball with his recreational team a few days later.

 

So the day after we got home from the festival, he texted me to ask if I was coming to softball. I said I thought I could make it, and I did. We texted on and off every day until the game. Then, at the game, I met his friends that he played with and they were really cool but he kind of ignored me. He was very into it, and I sucked big time, so that was embarrassing, and I thought for sure I wouldn't hear from him again. He gave me a high five at the end of the game and said "Your phone will probably be ringing again soon!" And then he texted me that same night thanking me for coming out and said he owed me cocktails.

 

I'm totally confused by what's going on. He's SUPPOSEDLY a player whose only interest is sleeping with girls (which, honestly, would be fine with me. the guy is gorgeous and I'm not sure I'm looking for something serious) but he has yet to make any real moves. Yet he continues to try to spend time with me and acts very gentlemanly and almost protective of me. I'm not sure what to do. Is he shy? Should I make some sort of greater effort to hang out (like asking him out or something?) Or should I wait to see if he calls me to formalize plans for cocktails? Am I in the friendzone?

 

Sorry this is so long. I just thought maybe someone would have some sort of insight into what is going on here. Also let me know if you need any more information. Thanks!

 

Lost

 

You let him follow through with his offer for cocktails. He's already interacting with you. You don't start initiating things until after he done some initiating. You heard that he is player, yet some of his behavior with you doesn't indicate that. Let him demonstrate what it is he wants with you. If he doesn't date you the way a man who wants a real relationship would, then you move on. If he "dates" you the way a player does, then you move on too.