Dream guy finally wants to try, he lives a couple hours away.

[sportygirl89]

So as I had originally sworn off dating. This guy I've liked for a long time is wanting to see if things are there. We originally started talking but I was 17 then and there is a 9 year age difference. He moved to another country for work for 5-6 years. Chemistry has always been there. This has potential to go long distance as he lives just a few hours away. What are good topics to talk about and or questions? I've been out of the dating scene for about 8 months.

[d0nnivain]

Everything is a good topic to talk about. Ask about him. People love to talk about themselves. Be interested in the answers.

[fred123]

how can one tell if they are being friend zoned or not then?

[sportygirl89]

how can one tell if they are being friend zoned or not then?

 

Well I know for me he always has tried to get his hands on me some way sexually. So I know I'm definitely more than a friend. Now if future material that I don't know.

[justwhoiam]

Well I know for me he always has tried to get his hands on me some way sexually.

If you're looking for something more than that, make sure that's not all that he's looking for... (I think that's trickier than understanding if you're friendzoned).

[casey.lives]

be his friend and make him feel good about himself. Guys really want that. Being younger is a non issue

[sportygirl89]

If you're looking for something more than that, make sure that's not all that he's looking for... (I think that's trickier than understanding if you're friendzoned).

 

 

I don't think I'm necessarily friendzoned. Just have never had time until now to even consider it. He just got back in October from working abroad and didn't want anything while he got adjusted being back in the states, which is understandable (since he was just wanting to hang out with family and stuff). A family member (a kid) got sick this weekend and I made sure to be completely chill about it (we were supposed to meet up that night). We've been pretty open and I would say even more open all day (with the fact I showed interest in caring about his family member being sick). I guess I'll see where it goes but not limit it to this guy.

[justwhoiam]

I don't think I'm necessarily friendzoned.

sportygirl, you claimed that you are more than a friend to him, as he got sexual with you. Now you say the above.

 

Read my post again. I said that understanding if he just wants sex is trickier than understanding if he just sees you as a friend (or potential f buddy).

 

He just got back in October from working abroad and didn't want anything while he got adjusted being back in the states

Leave "just" out of the picture. October was almost 9 months ago. Summer has come. He reawakened. It's male hormones.

 

A family member (a kid) got sick this weekend and I made sure to be completely chill about it (we were supposed to meet up that night)

Darling, how that has anything to do with him meeting you?

1. if the kid has some incurable disease or something really serious, it won't be solved overnight, so it's not a matter of standing you up for this weekend, it's a long-term thing (though I fail to see how his life needs to stop because of that; also, you didn't mention who this kid is for him: cousin? nephew? what)

2. if the kid got a fever or something, what did that have to do with him. Did he have to babysit?

 

We've been pretty open and I would say even more open all day (with the fact I showed interest in caring about his family member being sick).

I'm not sure you did the right thing. I don't have all the information. But basically, you let him know you're sticking around, no matter what. You've been in touch with him all day. He's just a few hours away. Is it a 2-hour drive? So why couldn't he meet you half way or something and spend a couple of hours with you in person?

 

Maybe this has potential in your eyes, but be sure you're not fooling yourself. To me, this has great BS potential. He proved he can keep you around with little to no effort. For what we know, he could have gone out with some other woman (see if he disappeared magically for a few hours).

 

I guess I'll see where it goes but not limit it to this guy.

Limiting what to this guy? Your love interest? Don't you need something more from him to prove his interest in you?