Calidude6 Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 Before my recent, the girl I dated for about 2 years on and off...I eventually just lost all the love I had for her and left. It took me some time and painful nights but it was easier to do so because I did nothing wrong in the relationship, she was just young and didn't like me for me. Now with my current ex after 2 years, what makes this pain hard to cope with is because I feel like I'm the reason we aren't together. I had the control to change that when we were together and I didn't. All the times we had our little talks, I didn't listen and would leave. I look back and wonder why I didn't show more affection or show how much I want her or how much she meant to me. I was so comfortable with the relationship, I didn't change with her and that ended up with me getting a broken heart. So it's a little hard to cope when I know I'm the main reason where if I did everything I could at 110%, I wouldn't feel as bad. I stopped doing all the little things girls love. So I doubt she will want a second chance because of what I've shown her where there is so much more to me than she knows. I screwed up, I messed up, and I hate myself for letting the girl I wanted a future with fall out of love with me. I know it's a 2 way thing but I take most of the blame and it sucks, makes the pain worse. Of course it's a great learning experience on to never do it again but why did I have to learn it with her? I miss my best friend, my love but nothing I can do but move forward and wish for the best. I'm sorry!
Woon Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 (edited) Im in the same boat man. I have a very driven ex, i got comfortable and lazy and she had enough. The fact that we spoke about it the other night gives me hope that she'll stick with me after this wakeup call Edit: improve yourself, focus on you. Tell her you realised all you did wrong and you hope in time shell see youre working on yourself. But make it clear youre doing it for you. Edited June 26, 2015 by Woon 1
Author Calidude6 Posted June 26, 2015 Author Posted June 26, 2015 Im in the same boat man. I have a very driven ex, i got comfortable and lazy and she had enough. The fact that we spoke about it the other night gives me hope that she'll stick with me after this wakeup call Edit: improve yourself, focus on you. Tell her you realised all you did wrong and you hope in time shell see youre working on yourself. But make it clear youre doing it for you. It's just makes it even harder to know I'm the reason for this breakup where I could of easily prevented this from happening. It makes the pain a little worse knowing that but I'm trying hard and doing the best I can to move past this and improve myself.
casey.lives Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 you sound very fatalistic. why be sorry?? why not change and try again??!! relationships are not about learning from each person to improve and move on but to improve and stay and mutually benefit from the growth. I don't have this with my ex because he was in love with someone else the whole time and I was unaware. Today I understand why there was never an emotional investments in our relationship, he had a torch for his love. it had nothing to do with me. I was a bystander in a love war/game. I died as I was supposed to. However I still value the experience because now I have little illusions about love. That means everything to me today
Author Calidude6 Posted June 26, 2015 Author Posted June 26, 2015 you sound very fatalistic. why be sorry?? why not change and try again??!! relationships are not about learning from each person to improve and move on but to improve and stay and mutually benefit from the growth. I don't have this with my ex because he was in love with someone else the whole time and I was unaware. Today I understand why there was never an emotional investments in our relationship, he had a torch for his love. it had nothing to do with me. I was a bystander in a love war/game. I died as I was supposed to. However I still value the experience because now I have little illusions about love. That means everything to me today I would love to try again with my ex but she doesn't want to give me a second chance. So everything I went through with her is a life experience where I can take the good and bad and build that from within. The break up did open my eyes up in different areas that helped me improve myself as an individual. She might be in a rebound relationship right now, idk but it's what I heard. The way I look at it, she's missing out on a great relationship that had a lot of potential but she's young and still learning. Maybe she didn't love me enough to give me a second chance after 2 years or maybe doesn't believe me on things that changed me. Whatever happens, someone will get a better me. I was hoping it was her but if not, someone else will be happy with me.
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