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Hi All,

 

I am looking for some encouraging words...

 

I am 8 weeks post B/U on Monday - She left me. My story is on here... largely my fault through nothing bad just a combinations of things I could and should have fixed myself but I couldn't see the wood for the trees... that and taking the poor girl for granted.

 

Anyways - She came around last wednesday to pick up her passport and something else... She didn't take any clothes or any other stuff???

 

(I should say we lived together 6.5 years - we still rent a house together but she has gone to live with her mother and is apparently looking at moving on from there - only down the road).

 

Needless to say - I am living in a house full of our stuff and all her personal belongings including clothes some still hanging where she left them 8 weeks ago.

 

One thing we never did was have photos of ourselves together in the house... We were not that type of people. I wanted to have some couple selfies printed but never thought she would approve to have them hanging up.

 

Anyway - the saturday before she left I ordered a collage print of a load of funny holiday couple selfies of us.. She walked and then the next day it arrived..

 

I hung it on the wall anyhow... Because I wanted to.

 

When she came round for the first time last week - she noticed it obviously and absolutely loved it! she was even taking pictures of it on her phone??? Why??

 

We talked (non relationship as I didn't want her to feel uncomfortable) for about 35 minutes and at one point she looked into her hands and had a look of 'Am I doing the right thing??'... It was the weirdest thing to see.

 

Anyhow - she left, I kept it all together, no hug nothing. And then I broke down.

 

I went non contact for 6 days - before she was due to go on her very short break with a family member yesterday... I sent a simple polite text to say 'Have a nice time in Amsterdam X'

 

She come back within 30 seconds - Thank you, Are you Ok? X

 

I ignored this one...

 

She has since then had some very important mail come through - I thought about ignoring it and adding it to the pile but she needs this when she returns and she was not expecting it either...

 

I did the decent thing and went and put it through the mailbox of her Mums house so she gets it when she returns Sunday night.

 

I have not told her I have done this - she will realise on Sunday.

 

Damn - I miss that girl so much and would still welcome her back...

 

Have I done anything wrong here?? We would still end up communicating down the line as we still have this house to pay for and our stuff to deal with??

 

Why do I hurt so bad!! Some days I am focused - and I think of her for like unto an hour.. other days like yesterday (my day off) I think about her and our great times together and cry most of the day!!

 

Help me out here... What should I do. I have done the decent thing with the mail surely...

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Best words. I have been told

 

 

So don’t be so hard on yourself if you’re still not over what happened. Don’t think yourself stupid just because you’re still sad that it’s gone. It hurts because it mattered. It hurts because it was promising. But remember that nothing is ever too broken to be fixed, not even your heart.

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