kendahke Posted June 27, 2015 Posted June 27, 2015 Leaving a note was rotten? She gave him chlamydia! Oh please. Neither of them bothered to get an STD test done before they smashed... and he may have been carrying it himself unless he was a virgin when he smashed. He hasn't bothered to answer my question about whether or not they took the test before busting raw up inside of her. So, in that sense, he gave himself chlamydia because he didn't think his own health was important enough for him to stop and get that verification before he got his dicque wet.
Author lilwing Posted June 27, 2015 Author Posted June 27, 2015 (edited) I am so upset because I had written up a really long detailed reply and lost it because of a login problem. But first, there is no way I could have been carrying chlamydia. Symptoms showed up within 2-3 weeks of us having sex. And I hadn't had sex with anyone but my ex before that. Second of all, she says she didn't sleep with this guy for over a year and that it was someone else who gave her it because the condom broke. She is safe sex only unless she is in a longterm relationship. Since I don't have time to rewrite, I am going to summarize. I have thought about it a lot. She was friends with the guy for a couple years before they flinged a year ago. I think she did it out of desperation. She sexted him on and off until mid April after we had gone on about 4-5 dates. I think I read too far into the texts because I was angry. It makes more sense now. Her explanation was that he tried to sext with her that night and she said no I am seeing someone. Regardless she thought it was still okay to see him and be his friend. He and her close female friend traveled from another state for some event and she hadn't seen either in about a year. She swears to god she never was alone with him that night. She said I can ask her friend. It would be really weird and disgusting if she did have sex with him because we had sex when she came over that night. She did bring up how she wrestled a friend and he got hurt that night, so I was kind of suspicious, but I didn't notice any signs that she was with someone. So she didn't conceal the friend or the wrestling. When I went through her phone, I noticed that the texting stopped that night. She hasn't talked to him since. If she had though, I would have been like "NOPE, I'm done!" She also made that pretty clear when she explained it to me. She also told me I could have asked to go through her phone any time if I just asked - as well as her computer, email, Facebook, or anything. And that I still can. I think if she was really dishonest or cheated, she would have tried to at least cover it up; delete it, put a password on her phone, something. But she didn't. I don't think she tried to conceal anything. She has been very open about her past relationships and sexual history with me. Granted, it was really ****ty that she at the time thought it was acceptable to be friends with a fling in this specific scenario. She called herself selfish and said she went back to read through it and saw it from my perspective. She deleted him on Facebook and I didn't ask her to. Thinking back on the last two months with her, I really think she took me seriously and was committed by the time this May 23rd crap happened. The only possible reason I can conceive of that she would cheat on me would be to see an ex that she was in love with - she never had anything like that with that guy. Even if she didn't sleep with him that night, it is still pretty messed up. I decided to continue seeing her for the time being, but I don't know if I will break up yet. Still need to think about it. I am also seriously considering ask her friend about it to get it off my mind. I don't know how to approach the issue though. The chlamydia was strike one, this whole sexting/meetup thing was strike two, and if there is a strike three, I'm outtie. Edited June 27, 2015 by lilwing
SSJROMANCE Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 Once a cheater always a cheater. Dump the nasty chick.
phineas Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 You left a note OP? I would of Donkey Punched the skank then blocked her from my life. Get some antibiotics the STD is poisoning your brain. If you were thinking straight this thread would of read "some crazy bitch gave me an STD so I deleted her from my life"
mortensorchid Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 On one hand, you were only "going steady" for a few weeks, you hadn't exactly been in an LTR. You were in an LTR with a short past if that makes sense. STDs, however, are no laughing matter. We all catch something at some point (myself included), because ... well, we just do. But based on what you have said, you should not be with this woman. Walk away and get a prescription for antibiotics.
kendahke Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 I am so upset because I had written up a really long detailed reply and lost it because of a login problem. But first, there is no way I could have been carrying chlamydia. Symptoms showed up within 2-3 weeks of us having sex. And I hadn't had sex with anyone but my ex before that. Second of all, she says she didn't sleep with this guy for over a year and that it was someone else who gave her it because the condom broke. She is safe sex only unless she is in a longterm relationship. Since I don't have time to rewrite, I am going to summarize. I have thought about it a lot. She was friends with the guy for a couple years before they flinged a year ago. I think she did it out of desperation. She sexted him on and off until mid April after we had gone on about 4-5 dates. I think I read too far into the texts because I was angry. It makes more sense now. Her explanation was that he tried to sext with her that night and she said no I am seeing someone. Regardless she thought it was still okay to see him and be his friend. He and her close female friend traveled from another state for some event and she hadn't seen either in about a year. She swears to god she never was alone with him that night. She said I can ask her friend. It would be really weird and disgusting if she did have sex with him because we had sex when she came over that night. She did bring up how she wrestled a friend and he got hurt that night, so I was kind of suspicious, but I didn't notice any signs that she was with someone. So she didn't conceal the friend or the wrestling. When I went through her phone, I noticed that the texting stopped that night. She hasn't talked to him since. If she had though, I would have been like "NOPE, I'm done!" She also made that pretty clear when she explained it to me. She also told me I could have asked to go through her phone any time if I just asked - as well as her computer, email, Facebook, or anything. And that I still can. I think if she was really dishonest or cheated, she would have tried to at least cover it up; delete it, put a password on her phone, something. But she didn't. I don't think she tried to conceal anything. She has been very open about her past relationships and sexual history with me. Granted, it was really ****ty that she at the time thought it was acceptable to be friends with a fling in this specific scenario. She called herself selfish and said she went back to read through it and saw it from my perspective. She deleted him on Facebook and I didn't ask her to. Thinking back on the last two months with her, I really think she took me seriously and was committed by the time this May 23rd crap happened. The only possible reason I can conceive of that she would cheat on me would be to see an ex that she was in love with - she never had anything like that with that guy. Even if she didn't sleep with him that night, it is still pretty messed up. I decided to continue seeing her for the time being, but I don't know if I will break up yet. Still need to think about it. I am also seriously considering ask her friend about it to get it off my mind. I don't know how to approach the issue though. The chlamydia was strike one, this whole sexting/meetup thing was strike two, and if there is a strike three, I'm outtie. So the answer is "no, we didn't go take an STD test. We just assumed that neither of us were harboring and STD".
ird Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 Waiting for a strike 3, and you know you're expecting it, is just insulting yourself and your integrity. If you have this many problems so early in a relationship, things tend to not get better. Also consider that she can clean her phone out before seeing you in person. I unfortunately know this from experience as I've done it myself. Just leave her, get your STD situation taken care of, and move on. Do not let her contact you/see you in person, it'll only make things worse.
PogoStick Posted June 28, 2015 Posted June 28, 2015 When was the first time you had sex, and what date did you end up with the Chlamydia? Did you have symptoms? What conversation did you have with her about the STD? Did she get treated too? I mean, one of you must have said, "hey I got an STD after having sex with you, WTF!?" Sorry if you wrote it all earlier but I'm not reading that novel.
GorillaTheater Posted July 1, 2015 Posted July 1, 2015 I'll tell you what really happened. the were hanging out. Suddenly a giant gorilla came out of the bushes. While he was trying to protect her from the gorilla, Two little flying aliens with green eyes came out of a little spaceship and demanded to hand them her earings or they will kill her... Come on, man... Your Gf got hurt or injured, met you later that night and didn't tell you anything? Really? I bet she got her STD from the gorilla! You take that back.
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