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men want a woman who is attractive, loving, and faithful. women want a man who is attractive, loving, and faithful. it seems like life never gives either one. theres always a hang up...like the person is a cheater, unkind, selfish, or youre not that attracted to them.

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It's not unrealistic. Dating is like buying a used car... You have to kick a lot of tires to find the right one for you. The more experience you have the more you can easily pick out the bad ones to avoid.

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Dating and relationships really aren't hard. If you are attracted, are loving, and faithful to each other, it's simple. The problems arise when one or both are not all that, and try to force the relationship to be that. If you have to make it work, inherently it's not working and usually won't - you're not sufficiently compatible to act lovingly, stay attracted and remain faithful. Move on and find someone where this is easy for you both.

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men want a woman who is attractive, loving, and faithful. women want a man who is attractive, loving, and faithful.

 

If attractive, loving, and faithful is really ALL you want, then it's not unrealistic. But I doubt you only want those three things.

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If you spend your dating life looking for someone who is perfect and think you've found one, they won't have found the same thing.

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men want a woman who is attractive, loving, and faithful. women want a man who is attractive, loving, and faithful. it seems like life never gives either one. theres always a hang up...like the person is a cheater, unkind, selfish, or youre not that attracted to them.

 

You are asking for the basic.

 

Maybe you should change your speech to you'd like to find someone attractive to YOU and not someone attractive to general public.

 

I've notice that younger people tend to like what general public likes and they lack in developing their own personal taste.

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Well no one is perfect that's for sure. Everyone no matter how good looking they are or no matter how great a personality they have will all have their own hang up's and flaws.

 

I think people sometimes have unrealistic expectations they place upon partners and we are all human so we all mess up sometimes!

 

That being said no I don't think it's impossible to find ''the one'' as they say.

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It's not unrealistic to expect romantic chemistry and human decency. For all intensive purposes though, Hollywood, the internet, consumerism, the ubiquity of pornography, and the increased flexibility of the female gender role (to name but a few), have all made such simple notions virtually unattainable. People are far far less willing to invest in each other than ever before. Unfortunately, when no one is willing to become vulnerable and dare I say even emotionally and sexually dependent, then you get a bunch of transient hookups where people will feel more comfortable taking their clothes off than taking their social masks off. Today, if you want a relationship, I believe you really have to meet someone who is self-aware and not willing to be just another fish in the sea; someone that both values and wants a relationship just like you do. It's a cliche saying, but I'll say it anyway: when two people want to be together, they will make it work.

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