wronged Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I met a womanizer/liar some months ago. His own friend told me that he slept with several women. That's why I've never allowed him to touch me in a sexual way. I felt disgusted... He thinks that I don't like sex, that I don't find him attractive and so on. Actually, I don't like his disgusting behavior. Sex is sacred to me; he likes to have sex, I like to make love (there's a huge difference). I only slept with one man in my life (my ex-boyfriend), and he was also a womanizer/liar (I was a very young, and I regret it so much; I don't want to make the same mistake again). I've already suffered too much in my life because of lies (not only in love matters). Although he was a bad lover, I must confess that he WAS a great friend. We became friends... Curiously enough, he started to improve his behavior, but honestly I didn't expect him to change for me. He was a great friend, he helped in everything I needed... That touched my heart, I started to admire him for that. However, one day I met an evil woman who was very jealous of me because I had a good friend like him. Yes, he slept with her some days later!!! He's a pig! I hate him for that... but the worst part was: she tried to kill me (literally), and he did nothing to help me. He kept sleeping with her even after I tell him what she had done to me... He broke my heart, he humilliated me. He could have slept with all the women in the world, but never with a woman who wanted to kill me. I will never forgive him... When I confronted him, he was verbally aggressive. He was not man enough to recognize his mistake and apologize. I will never talk to him again in my life. I love myself, I have dignity. He will never he happy in love because he doesn't have the ability to love anyone, not even himself. He's sex addicted, he wants the woman to be attractive all the time, he's too physical and heartless... He used to complain that I was fat, that I didn't take care of my body... He was not a gentleman, he didn't care about my personality (only my body and sex). I could look beautiful if I wanted, but I like to get dressed in a simple way, I want a man to love my soul not my physical appearence. I want a man to love me when I get old and ugly, not to leave me when I'm 50 because I'm not atracttive anymore. This is my story... I would like to know how you would react if a fake friend of yours slept with a person who wanted to kill you, instead of helping you. WOULD YOU FORGIVE? I always forgive everybody, but I just can't forgive him... I even forgive the woman who wanted to kill me, but I don't forgive him. He's a monster!
TaraMaiden2 Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I'd wonder why I am giving up my time and precious head-space to so much hate when all it takes is just dropping it, letting it go, walking away and being indifferent. Really, I'm sorry, but honestly what is the point in harbouring so much animosity, resentment, hatred and repulsion? It's like buying poison for an enemy, and then drinking it yourself. Hatred is like picking up a burning coal and throwing it at the object of your hatred. It burns and damages you first. And the pain makes you mis-throw so you miss your mark entirely. They don't give a flying fig how you feel. They don't waste a single minute worrying or thinking about you. They don't care. I suggest you play them at their own game, and try to let go of this. 4
smackie9 Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 You already know what a womanizer is...a con artist/liar/only out for himself....I do not understand why this wasn't enough for you to avoid him at all costs. It's possible this guy is a sociopath. 2
stillafool Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I really don't see what the problem is. He's a jerk, you know it, you (wisely) didn't have sex with him so he had sex with another. Big deal. Why do you care since you already know he is not for you? Let him be with her and be glad he's gone.
lana-banana Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Everyone is missing the most important part of this post. Why did this woman want to murder you? How did she do it? Does this happen often? 1
Fleur de cactus Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I am telling you, be happy he is not longer with you. Be happy he is with that killer, they deserve each other. You will have the last laughter when they will no longer be together, because sooner or later it is going to happen. He is a narcissist who does not have any clue about love. He will never feel bad about the pain he causes to others. Don't be surprised if one day he tries to come back to you. You deserve a good man. Be strong and move on.
toscaroscura Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 This sounds like a soap opera! But he was NOT a "good friend". Nothing in your OP said anything good about this man. I would tell you to stay away from him, but you are probably too embroiled in the toxicity right now to listen. Good luck. 1
Jessie1231 Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Everyone is missing the most important part of this post. Why did this woman want to murder you? How did she do it? Does this happen often? I agree with this. How did this happen and why isn't she in prison if and tried to kill you?
gaius Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I wouldn't expect a woman to show great loyalty to a man who won't touch her, and the same vice versa. What do you want from him? To sit around with his cock in his hand, passing up opportunities for you after you rejected him? Don't hang around masculine males if that's seriously what you want.
gaius Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I've had that happen to me before in my past. The female "friend" who doesn't respond when you make a move but then gets all uppity when you then pick someone who doesn't meet her standard for whatever reason. It sucks she tried to kill you but when it comes to this guy either poop or get off the pot already.
MissBee Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 If someone is a fake friend, remove them from your life. There is no need to be friends or forgive them. Based on all you're saying he doesn't value you so why worry about forgiving him? I'd just move on and never speak to him again as you said you'd do.
toscaroscura Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I've had that happen to me before in my past. The female "friend" who doesn't respond when you make a move but then gets all uppity when you then pick someone who doesn't meet her standard for whatever reason. It sucks she tried to kill you but when it comes to this guy either poop or get off the pot already. Lol, I've been on the other side of this, a guy who decided he wasn't interested in me for whatever reason but got all butthurt and weird when I started dating someone else. It's childish. I think he liked the ego-stroke of my crush and when that ended he got mad. 1
Hopeful714 Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 All I gotta add here is that I doubt if there is a man alive (or dead) that is going to love you exclusively for your "soul". Sorry to burst your bubble, but men appreciate the visual and THAT will be the main thing that attracts and keeps your man. Aside from your bedroom skills of course. Is this superficial? Yea...but it's a fact. And you can read all about it right here on LS. So just get that "soulmate" thing out of you head... as well as this current guy who sleeps with psycho's. Lastly, not everyone who is 50 and older are "ugly and old."
phineas Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 Everyone is missing the most important part of this post. Why did this woman want to murder you? How did she do it? Does this happen often? Cause she's cray cray. And everyone knows that crazy women are the best in bed. 1
gaius Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 Lol, I've been on the other side of this, a guy who decided he wasn't interested in me for whatever reason but got all butthurt and weird when I started dating someone else. It's childish. I think he liked the ego-stroke of my crush and when that ended he got mad. I'm guessing that's what's going on here since this woman should be in jail if she's really running around trying to kill people 1
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