Author waiting4u Posted June 26, 2015 Author Posted June 26, 2015 Do his kids know about you? The boys do (see above).
katiegrl Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 (edited) Katie - Yes, honestly there's nothing to be suspicious about. He's not the type I'm serious. He's simple, easygoing, straightforward, considerate, accepting, dependable, no drama whatsoever. I've been cheated on - I know the signs. Not to mention his eldest son has friended me on Facebook (a bit creepy I know), but it verifies that his son is curious, thinks it's serious, and wants to meet me. He's just what they call a helicopter parent I think. They go to the movies and stuff on the weekends. I've been out with him on a Friday night. It's more a matter of me wondering whether or not I'm being unreasonable to demand so much of his time. I don't think so, but is it worth breaking it off with a really good guy? Okay perhaps he is not dating others...does not change the fact that he still does not wish to spend more time with you...especially Saturday nights. And trust me...the kids are just an excuse, a convenient excuse. The truth is...he just does not want to (spend more time)....otherwise he would be. I'm sorry. Gaeta asked this earlier...but you did not answer. How long have you been dating him? Edited June 26, 2015 by katiegrl 1
Author waiting4u Posted June 26, 2015 Author Posted June 26, 2015 Oh, and we've been dating three months. There ya go.
katiegrl Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 Katie - Yes, honestly there's nothing to be suspicious about. He's not the type I'm serious. He's simple, easygoing, straightforward, considerate, accepting, dependable, no drama whatsoever. I've been cheated on - I know the signs. Not to mention his eldest son has friended me on Facebook (a bit creepy I know), but it verifies that his son is curious, thinks it's serious, and wants to meet me. He's just what they call a helicopter parent I think. They go to the movies and stuff on the weekends. I've been out with him on a Friday night. It's more a matter of me wondering whether or not I'm being unreasonable to demand so much of his time. I don't think so, but is it worth breaking it off with a really good guy? Just me...but if that "really good guy" was not into me enough to want to spend more than once every five days with me (for a quick lunch)... and NEVER on Saturday nights...and who is only able (or desirous?) of being intimate with me twice per month...then yes I would break it off. Again, just me. And I think the word "demanding" does not fit. The word you are looking for is "reasonable," are you being reasonable in wanting (or expecting) more than this? IMO, no you are not being demanding....you are being "reasonable" in what you are wanting and expecting at this stage of the game. Again, how long have you been dating? 1
katiegrl Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 There ya go. Three months...got it. Not that long. I assumed it was more like a year plus....
Carm Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 I think I'd be wanting more but I also think you shouldn't have to ask him. He should be initiating. If you do decide to tell him, then he should make a correction right away and if he doesn't then you don't mean enough to him. Again, a healthy relationship needs to make constant progressions. Seeing him once every 5 days or so isn't enough going forward. 1
Author waiting4u Posted June 26, 2015 Author Posted June 26, 2015 Just me...but if that "really good guy" was not into me enough to want to spend more than once every five days with me (for a quick lunch)... and NEVER on Saturday nights...and who is only able (or desirous?) of being intimate with me twice per month...then yes I would break it off. Again, just me. And I think the word "demanding" does not fit. The word you are looking for is "reasonable," are you being reasonable in wanting (or expecting) more than this? IMO, no you are not being demanding....you are being "reasonable" in what you are wanting and expecting at this stage of the game. Again, how long have you been dating? THREE MONTHS lol Thank you for this. I'm going to back off a bit. I've expressed to him (quite recently) how I feel he should make more time for me, and with advance planning. Tonight he texted around dinnertime, wanting to see if I would be free for a drink in a couple hours. :roll eyes: I'll give him some space and date other people. I don't have time to waste - even on a good guy. If he doesn't man up a bit, then I'll cut him loose and / or explain in more detail why this is not working for me. 3
Clarence_Boddicker Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 Didn't read all the posts. If I was him & into you, I'd dump all the charitable obligations that conflict with time that could be spent with you. I'd spend as much time as possible with you. I'd make the time for a weekend getaway. Teens can survive a few days without their parents. If I was you, I'd lock my kids out of the house for awhile, if they had a safe place to go, so I could have a bit of quality time with my bf. Teens know all about sex, so who cares if they know you are getting it on? 1
katiegrl Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 THREE MONTHS lol Thank you for this. I'm going to back off a bit. I've expressed to him (quite recently) how I feel he should make more time for me, and with advance planning. Tonight he texted around dinnertime, wanting to see if I would be free for a drink in a couple hours. :roll eyes: I'll give him some space and date other people. I don't have time to waste - even on a good guy. If he doesn't man up a bit, then I'll cut him loose and / or explain in more detail why this is not working for me. Again just me...but I would cut him loose...and in doing so, explain WHY you are cutting him loose. Reason? You need more than what he is willing, capable or desirous of giving you. Not his fault...this just isn't working for ya. Then wish him well...and move on. I am so sorry. Disappointing I know. ((hugs)) 1
phineas Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 I would never GF up a woman who didn't want the sex at least once a week. Tell him you think you should see other people & get back out there. He either isn't into you all that much or he has issues. 1
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