Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 well i'm blocked by him so i guess that says what i should do. i'm not doing anything else after this. i've already broke contact with anyone connected to him as well. i just thought after so long that things would have been more peaceful as time went on. i've talked to my exs in the past and i was over them and had no feelings for them and we held small talk and didn't think anything about it, nobody was like i want to be left alone and leave alone. if they said hi to me or talked to me i talked didn't mean i talk to them everyday....even months went by but all of my other ex i never had a problem like this. we always remain friendly with each other and went on about our business every now and then said hello how you been and left it at that. with this situation it just seemed so immature.
dumbass2 Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 well i'm blocked by him so i guess that says what i should do. i'm not doing anything else after this. i've already broke contact with anyone connected to him as well. i just thought after so long that things would have been more peaceful as time went on. i've talked to my exs in the past and i was over them and had no feelings for them and we held small talk and didn't think anything about it, nobody was like i want to be left alone and leave alone. if they said hi to me or talked to me i talked didn't mean i talk to them everyday....even months went by but all of my other ex i never had a problem like this. we always remain friendly with each other and went on about our business every now and then said hello how you been and left it at that. with this situation it just seemed so immature. Actually I think what you are going through is more common and what you may have had with your ex's in the past is more the exception to the rule. You think that your ex is being immature because he is not going along with what you desire, which is to stay friendly and be nice. That does not work for a lot of people after a break up and it doesn't matter if it is dumper or dumpee. Hate to be harsh, but it sounds like he wants nothing to do with you any more or at least for the near future. Nobody on here can know what went on in your relationship, but he is making it clear what he wants right now. Not all relationships are going to follow the same script after a break up. You're going to have to do your best to accept that and try to move forward and not thinking about contacting. Don't be checking to see if he's un blocked you. Don't be looking for signs that the door is opening, because I sense that if you do, you will forge straight ahead with still trying to get him to be nice to you.
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 thanks for the response i agree with some of what you said. and as far as me forging into something i don't see myself doing that as i'm done with trying to do anything. if he doesn't want to be nice then ok. i blame myself for alot of it because i could have avoided being with someone like this as he told me that he was no good to a woman. that was my red flag right there to stay clear but we live and learn and i definitely learned from this.
dumbass2 Posted June 26, 2015 Posted June 26, 2015 thanks for the response i agree with some of what you said. and as far as me forging into something i don't see myself doing that as i'm done with trying to do anything. if he doesn't want to be nice then ok. i blame myself for alot of it because i could have avoided being with someone like this as he told me that he was no good to a woman. that was my red flag right there to stay clear but we live and learn and i definitely learned from this. That's it and DO NOT blame yourself if you have learned from this. There is a saying, "Once is a mistake, twice is a choice". I've learned the hard way and I'm still learning. Sometimes I still make the wrong choice even though I know better. THEN it's no one to blame but myself. lol 1
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