NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I tried to make peace with my ex after he broke up with me. For a long time he told me that there was nothing wrong with me. We were in a long distance relationship well recently I reached out to apologize and just make peace to be friendly not trying to get back with him or anything and he says that there are no hard feelings and that he just wants to be left alone and put this all behind him. I'm glad we were able to be peaceful about it but I can't lie it kind of hurt to hear him say I would just rather not talk to you. I told him if I did or said anything to offend him I'm sorry he responded and said it's cool we broke up don't try to fix it...it happens and said again he just wants to be left alone and then he blocked me. I felt horrible but I know there is nothing I can do about it. No matter how nice I was to this person I still got blocked but he keeps his other ex on his friends list. His other ex has a boyfriend I wonder why he did me like this why did I get blocked? please no negative rude comments. only positive ones. if you're going to be negative just don't respond at all
Satu Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Make it mutual: *No direct contact in either direction. No sending or receiving of messages. No replies. Block any means he might use to contact you. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of him on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying. 2
Jessie1231 Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I tried to make peace with my ex after he broke up with me. For a long time he told me that there was nothing wrong with me. We were in a long distance relationship well recently I reached out to apologize and just make peace to be friendly not trying to get back with him or anything and he says that there are no hard feelings and that he just wants to be left alone and put this all behind him. I'm glad we were able to be peaceful about it but I can't lie it kind of hurt to hear him say I would just rather not talk to you. I told him if I did or said anything to offend him I'm sorry he responded and said it's cool we broke up don't try to fix it...it happens and said again he just wants to be left alone and then he blocked me. I felt horrible but I know there is nothing I can do about it. No matter how nice I was to this person I still got blocked but he keeps his other ex on his friends list. His other ex has a boyfriend I wonder why he did me like this why did I get blocked? please no negative rude comments. only positive ones. if you're going to be negative just don't respond at all How long were you together and how long were you broken up. Sometimes people just don't want to be friends with an ex. If he doesn't want to be friends, just let it go. 2
quattrob Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Not exactly sure why you care so much about him being mean or whatever to you. Perhaps he needs more time but I doubt it, just leave him alone and forget about him. He's doing the same so why wouldn't you? 1
NopeNah Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 People only "treat" me by what I allow. Whether business,personal..whatever.. You set your own terms on how you want to be treated, before removing yourself from something that oversteps them. 1
mightycpa Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I'll make this as simple as I can for you. He doesn't want you around precisely because you seem to want this so badly. I suspect you ooze this neediness when you talk to him, and it is offputting to him. Either that, or it hurts him, and he doesn't want any reminders. Leave him alone. You'll be alright without him, and he'll be alright without you. 1
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 yes I understand what you mean as I should take the blame in a lot of this
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 I wasn't trying to be needy....maybe he saw it as that.
mightycpa Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Let it go. You made your pitch, you got your answer, it feels personal, but it probably isn't. There's no blame to be had. It just is. 1
hotmrw Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 It sounds to me like he is in control, AND HE KNOWS IT, sadly I had all the control until my Ex left me for another guy, I pushed to far, my advice as a person who acted the same way would be STEP BACK, he will be back running if you just make that step back.........
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 I'll make this as simple as I can for you. He doesn't want you around precisely because you seem to want this so badly. I suspect you ooze this neediness when you talk to him, and it is offputting to him. Either that, or it hurts him, and he doesn't want any reminders. Leave him alone. You'll be alright without him, and he'll be alright without you. I understand what you mean. maybe he saw it as that I don't know.
hotmrw Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Ohh he will of seen it trust me, IT WILL BE SHINING LIKE A BEACON Trust me I can identify his action/s I did the same STEP BACK and wait and see, don't forget to thank me when I am proved right.
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 I'll make this as simple as I can for you. He doesn't want you around precisely because you seem to want this so badly. I suspect you ooze this neediness when you talk to him, and it is offputting to him. Either that, or it hurts him, and he doesn't want any reminders. Leave him alone. You'll be alright without him, and he'll be alright without you. It sounds to me like he is in control, AND HE KNOWS IT, sadly I had all the control until my Ex left me for another guy, I pushed to far, my advice as a person who acted the same way would be STEP BACK, he will be back running if you just make that step back......... the thing is...I had already told him that I was letting go. that's why I made peace and I was not going to contact him again and I made that clear...why he decided to respond after I told him I wasn't going to message him anymore? yeah sounds like someone wanted to have the last say........I told him I wasn't going to message him anymore. I was at peace with everything and ready to keep going forward and he knew that.
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 Ohh he will of seen it trust me, IT WILL BE SHINING LIKE A BEACON Trust me I can identify his action/s I did the same STEP BACK and wait and see, don't forget to thank me when I am proved right. well at this point he has already blocked me but the thing is...I had already told him before he even took it upon himself to message me back that I was not going to contact him again I was only making peace. I kept it peaceful forgave him for anything he may have done and I was done with it. then today I get the whole spill of a message from him talking about he understands what i'm saying and he just wants to be left alone. 1
hotmrw Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 It sounds as if you were not ready to let go as you are on here asking WHY if you was ready to really let go, you would have just thought WHATEVER He will be back, probably blaming you for everything......... TAKE A STEP BACK
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 It sounds as if you were not ready to let go as you are on here asking WHY if you was ready to really let go, you would have just thought WHATEVER He will be back, probably blaming you for everything......... TAKE A STEP BACK I don't care what he does....I've disassociated myself with anyone and anything that was connected to him even friends I want to forget i'm trying so I will keep trying I will get to the point where none of it will even matter and if he does come back one day in the future I won't give a crap by that time.
hotmrw Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I am going through a very bad situation myself, I don't understand women but I do understand men I messed up, she left me for another guy..... We can help each other x God Bless.....
Satu Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 If you want to make peace, make peace with yourself. 3
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 I am going through a very bad situation myself, I don't understand women but I do understand men I messed up, she left me for another guy..... We can help each other x God Bless..... he claimed that it was just bad timing. I had to move from Japan back to California for my job but his home is California but he is still in Japan. I've heard every excuse possible at that time from I care for you as a friend not a lover...to let just be friends see where it goes again. but it's funny how now there is no friendship that he claimed he wanted. oh well not worth me thinking about anymore.
hotmrw Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 It sounds as though his real intentions are he wants more than just friends TAKE A STEP BACK........
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 It sounds as though his real intentions are he wants more than just friends TAKE A STEP BACK........ I will never hear from this guy again he has been as blunt and honest as he could be even when I was nice I got blocked. you keep saying take a step back he will come running back. I don't care if he does come running back a person only gets one shot with me and he blew it. when I take a step back it will be into the arms of the person who really deserves me. not this loser
ravfour4 Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 It sounds like you're trying to convince yourself of what you're saying rather than truly believing it. You wouldn't be on here posting or caring if you were so sure and happy to not give him another shot. Obviously you didn't mean to be needy, but I'm sure it came off as that as others said. Focus on yourself, take a step back - meaning realize how much you actually care despite saying you don't, move forward and stop worrying about why he blocked you or why he texted you. He texted you because he didn't believe you when you said you were done talking, he tested you and you responded showing that you aren't going to keep your word. He knows if he unblocks you that you'll respond - but this time, don't. 1
stillafool Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Your first mistake was contacting him after he was the one who broke up with you. That had to hurt and now you subjected yourself to more pain by contacting him to be friends. This is why he blocked you and told you not to contact him again. He thinks you didn't get the message the first time. He may be ready to be your friend after alot of time has passed and he is sure that you are over him. This is probably why he is friends with his ex who now has a boyfriend. He knows she no longer wants him.
Author NJooo Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 after we broke up he was the one who wanted to be friends to see where it goes....to me that didn't make any sense. we remained cordial with one another and then out of nowhere when i requested to have my things back that's when all of the problems started and the i've been busy i didn't have time to give your things back and to this day i gave up on trying to get my stuff back and by that point he just got mad at me because i was trying to get my things back and told me he was done, stop messaging him. i did nothing to this guy for him to have broken up with me after the break up i just wanted my study materials back because i was trying to study to get promoted and he never bothered to make an effort to return them even when i offered to pay for the shipping and it frustrated me i gave up on getting anything back. he falsely accused me of doing something that i didn't do and that's what resulted in us never being friends and him being done with the situation.
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