Leevers Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 My friend fell in love with her mother's boyfriend's son. He has been loving her for 2 years now and she never wanted him, but she kinda liked him, because he is a normal good looking and clever guy. This year they started having some kind of friendship with benefits and they both liked it very much, but they never had sex. They see each other only at weekends and they do something every weekend evening. Once the boy told her that he loves her, so she wanted to stop having the benefits. It didn't last long, because they both enjoyed it, so they keep on doing it. Now they are both unhappy I think. She probably loves him, but doesn't want to tell him nor to be his girlfriend, even though he would like that a lot, but whenever she is alone with him, she enjoys it. I just want my friend to be happy. She knows this is wrong, but says she cannot help it. Does anyone have the same problem? Do you have some advices?
Author Leevers Posted June 25, 2015 Author Posted June 25, 2015 She doesn't want him as boyfriend but she still wants him. And they're unhappy and cannot move on.
stillafool Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 I really can't blame her for not wanting to get serious with anyone at 17. I don't see a problem here. They will work it out.
TaraMaiden2 Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Oh goodness. They're still kids.... she especially is still too young to be messing about this way. She needs a bit of a kick in the backside.... It will pass, it's really not all that important in the great scheme of things. They're really not going to be mature enough to be sensible about this until their mid-to late 20's. This is just being over-dramatic.... 1
Buck Turgidson Posted June 25, 2015 Posted June 25, 2015 Wait, what are we saying they're too young for? 17-year olds have sex and relationships all the time. It's exactly the right time to explore relationships and gain experience. They may fail and frell things up, but it's the best time in life to frell up, because without screwing up a relationship, you never learn to improve your relationship skills. And it doesn't even seem like they're frelling it up too bad. I certainly don't buy that kids are required to have romantic relationships before FWBs. Why would that be at all more preferable. People need to learn the skills to engage in all different kinds of relationships, and that learning is gained by experience. There is no more riskiness in an FWB relationship at 17 than in a romantic relationship, quite the opposite I think, because (in principle) fewer feels are involved. And certainly no more feels than in romance.
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